Dear Victorious,
The world seems to be in miserable shape. Problems are all around us. Political leaders just seem to shower us with rhetoric. And religious leaders, one after the other, just fail and disappoint us. Honestly, where do you see hope in the world?
Eva N. - Fremont, NE
Dear Eva,
Of course I see hope in the world. Lots of it. But let's be clear, there is no hope without God. All hope is grounded in Jesus Christ. That said, I see hope in several places, but can cite two that are especially encouraging.
First, I see great hope in tomorrow's leaders. There are young people coming up today who are full of potential and promise. They're focused on God. They're authentic. They genuinely love others. I'm so encouraged when I get the privilege of working with them and see who we're turning this world over to in the next generation. Pray for them. They're hope for tomorrow.
Second, I see great hope in the willingness of God's people to repent. More and more I see people stepping out of denial, facing their demons, and engaging in the spiritual warfare that God Himself calls us to. These people are not who they want to be, and don't live the way they want to live. But they're willing to get honest about why and look in the mirror for personal accountability. In my own personal ministry, I mentor people like that and I've never been busier. There aren't enough hours in the day for me to meet the demand these people have for coaching. They're ready to take the bull by the horns and make some hard decisions for the sake of God's Kingdom. Pray for them. They're hope for tomorrow.
Friday, December 31, 2010
Thursday, December 30, 2010
Changing the Face of Christianity
Dear Victorious,
You've endorsed this thing called Changing the Face of Christianity, and said it's necessary because the face of Christianity is so tainted by the behavior of the Christians. So why haven't you done something to change the so-called face of Christianity? I mean, why aren't you its champion?
Heather B. - The Colony, TX
Dear Heather,
The truth? Because I'm such a loud-mouthed, opinionated oaf with near zero skills in diplomacy that nobody will listen to me. I tried to do it. Honestly I did. But even in my own church, my efforts ended up looking more like divisiveness sent from Satan than leadership sent from God. There are better men (and women) out there for this job than me. If there's a role for me in a public campaign like that, it has yet to be discovered. Until then, it seems best that I be supportive of the people who can provide the effective leadership that campaigns like this require.
You've endorsed this thing called Changing the Face of Christianity, and said it's necessary because the face of Christianity is so tainted by the behavior of the Christians. So why haven't you done something to change the so-called face of Christianity? I mean, why aren't you its champion?
Heather B. - The Colony, TX
Dear Heather,
The truth? Because I'm such a loud-mouthed, opinionated oaf with near zero skills in diplomacy that nobody will listen to me. I tried to do it. Honestly I did. But even in my own church, my efforts ended up looking more like divisiveness sent from Satan than leadership sent from God. There are better men (and women) out there for this job than me. If there's a role for me in a public campaign like that, it has yet to be discovered. Until then, it seems best that I be supportive of the people who can provide the effective leadership that campaigns like this require.
Wednesday, December 29, 2010
Outsourcing
Dear Victorious,
I've heard that you're involved in the outsourcing industry. Isn't that somewhat hypocritical of you? I mean, look how many U.S. jobs have been shipped off shore. How could you?
Martin V. - Plano, TX
Dear Martin,
Yes, it's true. I've worked in the outsourcing industry for years. Presently I have a consulting contract with an international IT and business services provider. That contract has a large focus on that firm's outsourcing business.
So it is hypocritical? To be honest, I've wrestled with that. But I've found peace with it ... after significant prayer and contemplation on the matter. The thing is offshoring flourishes and has done such damage to America because of a defect in the moral character of Americans. Let's face it, Americans, in general worship a false god known as "the best deal." If we can get more for less, we always assume that's best. It's been "the American way" for a long time now.
Outsourcing isn't what destroyed the jobs in America. In fact, outsourcing was invented in America and flourished here for decades. Many Americans had good jobs in outsourcing before the notion of offshoring ever turned up. So what happened? American greed, chasing more for less, found cheaper labor overseas and was willing to sell its soul to the devil for dollars.
I can assure you of this, I work in the outsourcing industry. But morally I would never, and still don't, propose offshoring as a strategy. Sending a job to a third world country must do more than labor arbitrage --- or I won't be involved in it. I focus on what is known as "transformational outsourcing," where fundamental business improvement is gained through process engineering and exploiting of technological advances. Granted that cheaper labor helps sweeten the deal. But if cheaper labor is the deal, I won't be involved. I'd rather be unemployed with my outsourcing industry contemporaries. Seriously I would!
I was traveling a week ago, and needed a shoe shine at the airport. Imagine my surprise to find that a shoe shine was $5.00. Good heavens, a scoop of ice cream costs $5 at the airport! Yesterday I was in WalMart and a pack of 10 Bic Pens was $1.00. Good heavens, how can they even make pens for that? The point is, things ought to cost more than they do. At $5 for a shoe shine, or 10 cents for an ink pen, someone isn't making a living wage. But we Americans rarely think of that. We just think the cheapest deal is the best deal. Until that mindset changes, jobs will continue to migrate to cheaper labor markets.
My prayer is that one day Americans will stop being so greedy that we'll be willing to pay a living wage to people who provide us with goods and services. I hope you'll pray that too!
I've heard that you're involved in the outsourcing industry. Isn't that somewhat hypocritical of you? I mean, look how many U.S. jobs have been shipped off shore. How could you?
Martin V. - Plano, TX
Dear Martin,
Yes, it's true. I've worked in the outsourcing industry for years. Presently I have a consulting contract with an international IT and business services provider. That contract has a large focus on that firm's outsourcing business.
So it is hypocritical? To be honest, I've wrestled with that. But I've found peace with it ... after significant prayer and contemplation on the matter. The thing is offshoring flourishes and has done such damage to America because of a defect in the moral character of Americans. Let's face it, Americans, in general worship a false god known as "the best deal." If we can get more for less, we always assume that's best. It's been "the American way" for a long time now.
Outsourcing isn't what destroyed the jobs in America. In fact, outsourcing was invented in America and flourished here for decades. Many Americans had good jobs in outsourcing before the notion of offshoring ever turned up. So what happened? American greed, chasing more for less, found cheaper labor overseas and was willing to sell its soul to the devil for dollars.
I can assure you of this, I work in the outsourcing industry. But morally I would never, and still don't, propose offshoring as a strategy. Sending a job to a third world country must do more than labor arbitrage --- or I won't be involved in it. I focus on what is known as "transformational outsourcing," where fundamental business improvement is gained through process engineering and exploiting of technological advances. Granted that cheaper labor helps sweeten the deal. But if cheaper labor is the deal, I won't be involved. I'd rather be unemployed with my outsourcing industry contemporaries. Seriously I would!
I was traveling a week ago, and needed a shoe shine at the airport. Imagine my surprise to find that a shoe shine was $5.00. Good heavens, a scoop of ice cream costs $5 at the airport! Yesterday I was in WalMart and a pack of 10 Bic Pens was $1.00. Good heavens, how can they even make pens for that? The point is, things ought to cost more than they do. At $5 for a shoe shine, or 10 cents for an ink pen, someone isn't making a living wage. But we Americans rarely think of that. We just think the cheapest deal is the best deal. Until that mindset changes, jobs will continue to migrate to cheaper labor markets.
My prayer is that one day Americans will stop being so greedy that we'll be willing to pay a living wage to people who provide us with goods and services. I hope you'll pray that too!
Tuesday, December 28, 2010
Mean Dad
Dear Victorious,
I grew up in a home where my father was a tyrant. Seriously. He was a monster of a father and has never loved me the way he should. That was years ago of course, and he's said he's sorry. But I can never forgive that man for what he did to me and how he treated me. The facts still speak for themselves. Nevertheless, my mother expects me to visit them and apparently just pretend that nothing happened. I wouldn't mind visiting her, but have no desire to even be in the same city as that man. How can I make Mom understand that what she's asking is unreasonable?
Claire D. - Los Angeles, CA
Dear Claire,
I'm going to assume, since you read my blog, that you identify yourself as a Christian. And if that is the case, you have a much more serious problem than your mother's expectations of you. I'm talking about the unforgiveness that you have toward your father. He may have done all sorts of despicable things to you. But he isn't doing them now. He's apologized. And you need to forgive him.
I'm not saying that you need to embrace the man and be in intimate relationship with him. But you do need to forgive him and get to a place where you can be civil with him. In fact, the Bible says that if you don't forgive those who sin against you, then neither will God forgive you! (Matthew 6:14-15). Moreover, Jesus said that God doesn't even want us to worship Him until we've done our part to reconcile all of our relationships. (Matthew 5:23-24)
The thing is, you can draw firm boundaries with your father. You can stay in a hotel when you visit. But he is your father and God expects you to honor him. (Matthew 15:4, 19:19 & Ephesians 6:2) Holding on to bitterness and resentment, especially when the man has apologized, is just uncalled for. God expects you to forgive your father for his transgressions against you.
In other words, stop making an issue of the past. And start trusting God to lead you into a better future.
I grew up in a home where my father was a tyrant. Seriously. He was a monster of a father and has never loved me the way he should. That was years ago of course, and he's said he's sorry. But I can never forgive that man for what he did to me and how he treated me. The facts still speak for themselves. Nevertheless, my mother expects me to visit them and apparently just pretend that nothing happened. I wouldn't mind visiting her, but have no desire to even be in the same city as that man. How can I make Mom understand that what she's asking is unreasonable?
Claire D. - Los Angeles, CA
Dear Claire,
I'm going to assume, since you read my blog, that you identify yourself as a Christian. And if that is the case, you have a much more serious problem than your mother's expectations of you. I'm talking about the unforgiveness that you have toward your father. He may have done all sorts of despicable things to you. But he isn't doing them now. He's apologized. And you need to forgive him.
I'm not saying that you need to embrace the man and be in intimate relationship with him. But you do need to forgive him and get to a place where you can be civil with him. In fact, the Bible says that if you don't forgive those who sin against you, then neither will God forgive you! (Matthew 6:14-15). Moreover, Jesus said that God doesn't even want us to worship Him until we've done our part to reconcile all of our relationships. (Matthew 5:23-24)
The thing is, you can draw firm boundaries with your father. You can stay in a hotel when you visit. But he is your father and God expects you to honor him. (Matthew 15:4, 19:19 & Ephesians 6:2) Holding on to bitterness and resentment, especially when the man has apologized, is just uncalled for. God expects you to forgive your father for his transgressions against you.
In other words, stop making an issue of the past. And start trusting God to lead you into a better future.
Monday, December 27, 2010
New Year's Resolutions
Dear Victorious,
I'm curious. Do you have any New Year's resolutions? And what has been your experience with them in the past? Have you been able to keep them?
Keith C. - Monroe, LA
Dear Keith,
I don't make New Year's resolutions any more. There are always things I'd like to see changed in my life. Mostly those are my responses to situations I encounter - such as physical pain or conflict. But I have learned that I cannot simply make a resolution or resolve to change my own thinking.
I can only be transformed by the renewing of my mind through time spent in God's Word and time spent walking with God, live life on His terms. I used to make New Year's resolutions - and every single one of them, year after year, ended in utter failure. It was very disheartening. I find it is very freeing now not to make resolutions. I just take those things to God and trust Him to work out my righteousness in His timing and in His ways.
I'm curious. Do you have any New Year's resolutions? And what has been your experience with them in the past? Have you been able to keep them?
Keith C. - Monroe, LA
Dear Keith,
I don't make New Year's resolutions any more. There are always things I'd like to see changed in my life. Mostly those are my responses to situations I encounter - such as physical pain or conflict. But I have learned that I cannot simply make a resolution or resolve to change my own thinking.
I can only be transformed by the renewing of my mind through time spent in God's Word and time spent walking with God, live life on His terms. I used to make New Year's resolutions - and every single one of them, year after year, ended in utter failure. It was very disheartening. I find it is very freeing now not to make resolutions. I just take those things to God and trust Him to work out my righteousness in His timing and in His ways.
Sunday, December 26, 2010
Sad Christians
Dear Victorious,
It seems that Christians are always talking about the joy and happiness and peace and serenity that God gives them all. Where then do Christians go who are sad and depressed?
Lana T. - Indianapolis, IN
Dear Lana,
They go to their knees and pour their hearts out to their heavenly Father. They go to their Bibles and seek comfort in His word. Christians aren't always a happy lot. In fact, there are times when it is heart-breaking to be walking this Christian faith out. There are times when it is painful.
But we have the model of Jesus. There were times when Jesus wept over the dilemma He found Himself in. There were times when He was so stressed that He sweated blood. And always, we see Jesus turning to His Father in prayer, in meditation. It is what God's people do. They walk through the sadness, not around it or over it. And they walk through it holding His hand.
It seems that Christians are always talking about the joy and happiness and peace and serenity that God gives them all. Where then do Christians go who are sad and depressed?
Lana T. - Indianapolis, IN
Dear Lana,
They go to their knees and pour their hearts out to their heavenly Father. They go to their Bibles and seek comfort in His word. Christians aren't always a happy lot. In fact, there are times when it is heart-breaking to be walking this Christian faith out. There are times when it is painful.
But we have the model of Jesus. There were times when Jesus wept over the dilemma He found Himself in. There were times when He was so stressed that He sweated blood. And always, we see Jesus turning to His Father in prayer, in meditation. It is what God's people do. They walk through the sadness, not around it or over it. And they walk through it holding His hand.
Saturday, December 25, 2010
Gender Re-Assignment
Dear Victorious,
Does the Bible have anything to say about sex change surgery? Wouldn't that be a sin in God's eyes?
Tyndall R. - Roanoke, VA
Dear Tyndall,
There are a couple of places in the Bible that come to mind, but the first and clearest is in Deuteronomy 22:5. It says there that a woman should not wear men's clothing, nor should a man wear women's clothing. It goes on to say that God "detests anyone who does this."
From a Christian perspective, God knew each of us before we were even formed in our mother's womb. And He has a perfect plan for each of us for all of eternity. He put us on this earth and asked us to have a human experience. To some, He asked us to live that human experience as a man, and to some as a woman. Those gender assignments? They're part of God's will for our lives.
People who believe they're, for example, a woman trapped in a man's body, are confused. They're lost. They're ignorant of God's love and of who they are in Christ. They've been badly deceived. There is no such thing as a man trapped in a woman's body or vice versa. People who have those feelings should be ministered to just like anyone else who is lost.
For those who've already had the gender re-assignment medical procedures, repentance is always possible. It is not an unforgivable sin. But it is sin and should be regarded that way.
Does the Bible have anything to say about sex change surgery? Wouldn't that be a sin in God's eyes?
Tyndall R. - Roanoke, VA
Dear Tyndall,
There are a couple of places in the Bible that come to mind, but the first and clearest is in Deuteronomy 22:5. It says there that a woman should not wear men's clothing, nor should a man wear women's clothing. It goes on to say that God "detests anyone who does this."
From a Christian perspective, God knew each of us before we were even formed in our mother's womb. And He has a perfect plan for each of us for all of eternity. He put us on this earth and asked us to have a human experience. To some, He asked us to live that human experience as a man, and to some as a woman. Those gender assignments? They're part of God's will for our lives.
People who believe they're, for example, a woman trapped in a man's body, are confused. They're lost. They're ignorant of God's love and of who they are in Christ. They've been badly deceived. There is no such thing as a man trapped in a woman's body or vice versa. People who have those feelings should be ministered to just like anyone else who is lost.
For those who've already had the gender re-assignment medical procedures, repentance is always possible. It is not an unforgivable sin. But it is sin and should be regarded that way.
Friday, December 24, 2010
Christian Gossip
Dear Victorious,
Does the Bible have anything to say about gossip? I know most religions consider it a sin, but I wonder what the Biblical basis is for it. I have to admit that I like gossip because it's interesting to hear about other people's lives. I also think that gossip could have a benefit in that it could help make us aware of other people's needs, prayer for them, etc. I've got a friend who says that no good can come of gossip. Who's right here?
Cinda R. - Dallas, TX
Dear Cinda,
Your friend is right. The Bible has a great deal to say about gossip - and none of it is positive. Look at Proverbs 11:13, 16:28, 18:8, 20:19, and 26:20 & 22. Then look at Romans 1:29 and 2 Corinthians 12:20. The Apostle Paul puts it, in Romans 1:29, right up there with murder, envy, slander, deceit, jealousy, selfish ambition, etc.
I think the heart of the matter here is the intent. If you really cared about someone's needs and wanted to assist them or pray for them, there are better ways to get and convey the information. Word of mouth is not how something should be communicated. So examine the heart of the person telling the gossip and the heart of the person seeking the gossip.
We may find the tidbits of other people's lives to be interesting and entertaining. But if we are discussing someone else to feed our own selfish desires, what good could come of that? We need to stay as far from gossip as possible. And when gossip is passed to us, we need to stop the passing. It goes no further than me. The dictionary defines gossip as "idle talk." Philippians 4:8 tells us to focus on things that are excellent and worth of praise. Idle talk not included.
Does the Bible have anything to say about gossip? I know most religions consider it a sin, but I wonder what the Biblical basis is for it. I have to admit that I like gossip because it's interesting to hear about other people's lives. I also think that gossip could have a benefit in that it could help make us aware of other people's needs, prayer for them, etc. I've got a friend who says that no good can come of gossip. Who's right here?
Cinda R. - Dallas, TX
Dear Cinda,
Your friend is right. The Bible has a great deal to say about gossip - and none of it is positive. Look at Proverbs 11:13, 16:28, 18:8, 20:19, and 26:20 & 22. Then look at Romans 1:29 and 2 Corinthians 12:20. The Apostle Paul puts it, in Romans 1:29, right up there with murder, envy, slander, deceit, jealousy, selfish ambition, etc.
I think the heart of the matter here is the intent. If you really cared about someone's needs and wanted to assist them or pray for them, there are better ways to get and convey the information. Word of mouth is not how something should be communicated. So examine the heart of the person telling the gossip and the heart of the person seeking the gossip.
We may find the tidbits of other people's lives to be interesting and entertaining. But if we are discussing someone else to feed our own selfish desires, what good could come of that? We need to stay as far from gossip as possible. And when gossip is passed to us, we need to stop the passing. It goes no further than me. The dictionary defines gossip as "idle talk." Philippians 4:8 tells us to focus on things that are excellent and worth of praise. Idle talk not included.
Thursday, December 23, 2010
Bedroom Spat
Dear Victorious,
Let me just put this straight to you: my husband refuses to make love to me any more. When I ask why, he says it's because of the way I treat him. I know we have our differences, but I thought the Bible says married people shouldn't withhold sex from each other unless they agree on it and only then for a temporary period of time. How can I make my husband see how wrong he is about this?
Laura T. - Overland Park, KS
Dear Laura,
Yes, the Bible does say that husbands and wives shouldn't use sex as a weapon or bargaining tool. Fasting from sex should only be undertaken by mutual agreement. However, it sounds like you are focusing on the law and not on the heart of the matter.
Sex is not the basis for a marriage relationship. Rather it is the celebration of the marriage relationship. So ask yourself if you husband has a relationship that is worth celebrating? He's told you he doesn't like the way you treat him. What does that mean? How do you treat him?
You cannot be obstinate and difficult throughout the day and then expect a spouse to make love to you at the end of that day. Are you submitting to and respecting your husband like you would Christ Himself? Do you give your husband respect and unconditional love and support?
You may ultimately need marriage counseling. But if you're looking for a Biblical solution, check your heart and your motives. It's quite possible that a prayerful, loving wife would be incredibly attractive to your husband.
Let me just put this straight to you: my husband refuses to make love to me any more. When I ask why, he says it's because of the way I treat him. I know we have our differences, but I thought the Bible says married people shouldn't withhold sex from each other unless they agree on it and only then for a temporary period of time. How can I make my husband see how wrong he is about this?
Laura T. - Overland Park, KS
Dear Laura,
Yes, the Bible does say that husbands and wives shouldn't use sex as a weapon or bargaining tool. Fasting from sex should only be undertaken by mutual agreement. However, it sounds like you are focusing on the law and not on the heart of the matter.
Sex is not the basis for a marriage relationship. Rather it is the celebration of the marriage relationship. So ask yourself if you husband has a relationship that is worth celebrating? He's told you he doesn't like the way you treat him. What does that mean? How do you treat him?
You cannot be obstinate and difficult throughout the day and then expect a spouse to make love to you at the end of that day. Are you submitting to and respecting your husband like you would Christ Himself? Do you give your husband respect and unconditional love and support?
You may ultimately need marriage counseling. But if you're looking for a Biblical solution, check your heart and your motives. It's quite possible that a prayerful, loving wife would be incredibly attractive to your husband.
Wednesday, December 22, 2010
Holiday Blues
Dear Victorious,
I know that "Jesus is the reason for the season" and all that. But it just seems that every year at Christmas time I end up with the "holiday blues." And I honestly don't know why. Any advice for someone like me?
Anita R. - Burlington, VT
Dear Anita,
Of course I have advice for people like you. In fact, I think I answered this question not long ago. (See http://dearvictorious.blogspot.com/2010/11/holiday-depression.html.)
I'm not a clinician, but certainly if you live in Vermont the weather is gray and cold this time of year. I know many people experience some depression during that time of year. You may want to talk to your doctor about that.
Weather aside though, I suspect that the greatest reason people experience depression during the holidays is that Christ not at the center of their celebration and activities to prepare for the celebration. Consider that you were shopping, wrapping, decorating, cleaning, baking, planning, sending cards and doing other holiday preparations ... all for Jesus. Do you suppose your outlook might be any different?
Busy-ness is a subtle enemy of serenity. Don't let it rob you of yours.
I know that "Jesus is the reason for the season" and all that. But it just seems that every year at Christmas time I end up with the "holiday blues." And I honestly don't know why. Any advice for someone like me?
Anita R. - Burlington, VT
Dear Anita,
Of course I have advice for people like you. In fact, I think I answered this question not long ago. (See http://dearvictorious.blogspot.com/2010/11/holiday-depression.html.)
I'm not a clinician, but certainly if you live in Vermont the weather is gray and cold this time of year. I know many people experience some depression during that time of year. You may want to talk to your doctor about that.
Weather aside though, I suspect that the greatest reason people experience depression during the holidays is that Christ not at the center of their celebration and activities to prepare for the celebration. Consider that you were shopping, wrapping, decorating, cleaning, baking, planning, sending cards and doing other holiday preparations ... all for Jesus. Do you suppose your outlook might be any different?
Busy-ness is a subtle enemy of serenity. Don't let it rob you of yours.
Tuesday, December 21, 2010
Believing Well
Dear Victorious,
I've been a believer as long as I can remember. In fact, I can't remember a time when I didn't believe in God. But I meet people who haven't believed for so long, and somehow they seem to believe better than I do. I'm not sure how this is possible. Maybe it's just my perception, but it often seems that others have a much stronger faith than me. Could that be true?
Donna D. - Red Oak, TX
Dear Donna,
Certainly someone could have a stronger faith than you. But more than likely, they've just had a more dramatic faith experience than you did. Typically there are about four different stages to belief.
1. We see it as impossible to believe and we think of it as we might think of a fairy tale.
2. We investigate the facts but are still unconvinced. The facts don't overwhelm us. We may even want to believe, but just can't.
3. We encounter the truth personally and it overwhelms us. In Christianity, we encounter Christ personally on this issue, and He begins to provide the belief.
4. We commit ourselves to Jesus and to serving Him, then begin to fully understand and live the reality of what we believe.
So here's the question. Given that you've believed "for as long as you can remember," have you gone through these four stages of belief? Has Jesus Christ Himself given you your belief? Or was it given to you by your parents?
People who grow up in good Christian families tend not to have such dramatic faith experiences. Nevertheless, there comes a time for all of us when we have to take Jesus on a personal level. He shows Himself to us as individuals and we begin to have our own personal faith experience instead of the one our parents had.
I've been a believer as long as I can remember. In fact, I can't remember a time when I didn't believe in God. But I meet people who haven't believed for so long, and somehow they seem to believe better than I do. I'm not sure how this is possible. Maybe it's just my perception, but it often seems that others have a much stronger faith than me. Could that be true?
Donna D. - Red Oak, TX
Dear Donna,
Certainly someone could have a stronger faith than you. But more than likely, they've just had a more dramatic faith experience than you did. Typically there are about four different stages to belief.
1. We see it as impossible to believe and we think of it as we might think of a fairy tale.
2. We investigate the facts but are still unconvinced. The facts don't overwhelm us. We may even want to believe, but just can't.
3. We encounter the truth personally and it overwhelms us. In Christianity, we encounter Christ personally on this issue, and He begins to provide the belief.
4. We commit ourselves to Jesus and to serving Him, then begin to fully understand and live the reality of what we believe.
So here's the question. Given that you've believed "for as long as you can remember," have you gone through these four stages of belief? Has Jesus Christ Himself given you your belief? Or was it given to you by your parents?
People who grow up in good Christian families tend not to have such dramatic faith experiences. Nevertheless, there comes a time for all of us when we have to take Jesus on a personal level. He shows Himself to us as individuals and we begin to have our own personal faith experience instead of the one our parents had.
Monday, December 20, 2010
Financial Peace University?
Dear Victorious,
I think you've blogged before about Dave Ramsey. But I'm wondering about his Financial Peace University. Our church is offering it and my husband and I need some help like that. Would it be okay to take that course at our church?
Nelda R. - Ponca City, OK
Dear Nelda,
Yes, I think it is find for you to take Dave Ramsey's Financial Peace University course. I object to Mr. Ramsey's unloving, hateful remarks on his radio show. And I don't understand why America's pastors - who make him rich by peddling his wares in their churches - don't stand up and take him to task for his ungodly behavior. Nevertheless, his course is Biblically based and the financial principles he teaches are godly and worth your time and effort.
I think you've blogged before about Dave Ramsey. But I'm wondering about his Financial Peace University. Our church is offering it and my husband and I need some help like that. Would it be okay to take that course at our church?
Nelda R. - Ponca City, OK
Dear Nelda,
Yes, I think it is find for you to take Dave Ramsey's Financial Peace University course. I object to Mr. Ramsey's unloving, hateful remarks on his radio show. And I don't understand why America's pastors - who make him rich by peddling his wares in their churches - don't stand up and take him to task for his ungodly behavior. Nevertheless, his course is Biblically based and the financial principles he teaches are godly and worth your time and effort.
Sunday, December 19, 2010
Santa Claus
Dear Victorious,
How should Christian parents handle "the Santa Claus" issue? It seems that most Christian parents play along and give their kids the Santa Claus story until they're old enough to understand. Is there any room for this from a Biblical perspective?
Carly A. - Waco, TX
Dear Carly,
No, I don't think there is. Santa Clause, the Tooth Fairy, the Easter Bunny and other mythical characters have no basis in Biblical truth. They may be fun and seem harmless. But let's face it, they definitely obscure the true meaning of the holiday.
How does a child, for example, learn about Christ's birth and grasp its significance when he's sitting on Santa's lap and expecting Santa to come down through the chimney? Similarly, how does a child learn the significance of Christ's resurrection when he's waiting for the Easter bunny to show up with candy?
I don't want to seem like Mr. Scrooge here. But I'm convicted of the fact that playing along with these seemingly harmless cultural games makes it very possible to walk through the entire religious holiday without ever having any focus on God at all. When I look at religious celebrations in the Bible, they were definitely centered on God. And there was no room for distractions.
My own children have never been told about Santa Claus or the Easter Bunny. They've always known that Dad & Mom were the source of the treats on those holidays. And while we may watch the Christmas stories on TV, we watch them in the same context that we watch cartoons. In other words, we draw the line at any pretense that these mythical characters are real.
How should Christian parents handle "the Santa Claus" issue? It seems that most Christian parents play along and give their kids the Santa Claus story until they're old enough to understand. Is there any room for this from a Biblical perspective?
Carly A. - Waco, TX
Dear Carly,
No, I don't think there is. Santa Clause, the Tooth Fairy, the Easter Bunny and other mythical characters have no basis in Biblical truth. They may be fun and seem harmless. But let's face it, they definitely obscure the true meaning of the holiday.
How does a child, for example, learn about Christ's birth and grasp its significance when he's sitting on Santa's lap and expecting Santa to come down through the chimney? Similarly, how does a child learn the significance of Christ's resurrection when he's waiting for the Easter bunny to show up with candy?
I don't want to seem like Mr. Scrooge here. But I'm convicted of the fact that playing along with these seemingly harmless cultural games makes it very possible to walk through the entire religious holiday without ever having any focus on God at all. When I look at religious celebrations in the Bible, they were definitely centered on God. And there was no room for distractions.
My own children have never been told about Santa Claus or the Easter Bunny. They've always known that Dad & Mom were the source of the treats on those holidays. And while we may watch the Christmas stories on TV, we watch them in the same context that we watch cartoons. In other words, we draw the line at any pretense that these mythical characters are real.
Saturday, December 18, 2010
Prison Population
Dear Victorious,
I've read that the U.S. has more people imprisoned than any other country. How is this possible? I mean why would that be?
Margaret C. - Petaluma, CA
Dear Margaret,
From what I've read, the U.S. has about the same per capita crime rates as other industrialized (western) nations. Statistically, the U.S. incarcerates more of its criminals though, and for longer periods of time. Of course, studies have also be done on recidivism rates - to show that the U.S. has many repeat offenders who get incarcerated more than once in their life time.
There are plenty of experts who can shed light on this subject. But as a Christian, I think its more a reflection on who Americans are rather than how our government (and its penal system) works. Americans are selfish. We have entitlement issues. We're very myopic in our view of the world. We seldom experience real consequences from our poor choices as a nation. We're more blessed than any other nation on earth, and we take that blessing for granted.
The U.S. could incarcerate far fewer of us if more of us principled men and women of integrity. But as a people, we've put integrity pretty low on the list. And when we do that, crimes start to look acceptable. Moral failures start to look normal. And the stigma that comes with criminal convictions and incarceration fades into the background.
I've read that the U.S. has more people imprisoned than any other country. How is this possible? I mean why would that be?
Margaret C. - Petaluma, CA
Dear Margaret,
From what I've read, the U.S. has about the same per capita crime rates as other industrialized (western) nations. Statistically, the U.S. incarcerates more of its criminals though, and for longer periods of time. Of course, studies have also be done on recidivism rates - to show that the U.S. has many repeat offenders who get incarcerated more than once in their life time.
There are plenty of experts who can shed light on this subject. But as a Christian, I think its more a reflection on who Americans are rather than how our government (and its penal system) works. Americans are selfish. We have entitlement issues. We're very myopic in our view of the world. We seldom experience real consequences from our poor choices as a nation. We're more blessed than any other nation on earth, and we take that blessing for granted.
The U.S. could incarcerate far fewer of us if more of us principled men and women of integrity. But as a people, we've put integrity pretty low on the list. And when we do that, crimes start to look acceptable. Moral failures start to look normal. And the stigma that comes with criminal convictions and incarceration fades into the background.
Friday, December 17, 2010
Godly Politics?
Dear Victorious,
What do you suppose God thinks of politics in America? I mean, is there a way for it to be godly? Or are we just fooling ourselves to think that we could have a Christian government?
Dean K. - Cuyahoga Falls, OH
Dear Dean,
If you look back at the Old Testament and how governments came about, God always intended to be our King. He didn't want any other kings to be appointed or presidents to be elected. It's the most pure form of what is known as a theocracy. That's a form of government where God (or a god) is recognized as the supreme civil ruler.
It's heart-warming to look democracy and relate it Christian values and virtues. But it really does fall short in that it doesn't recognize the authority of God in everything. If it did, for example, all of our written law (i.e., congressional bills) would be based on Biblical principles. All of our government decisions would be made with prayer and fasting.
The purest form of theocracy that we see today is found in the Islamic states, where civil law defers to the religious law. In places like England, the Queen is head of both church and state. There is no separation, technically speaking. But of course you could hardly call England a theocracy. It functions much like our form of democracy.
So, to answer your question, I suspect that God takes a dim view of American politics. There is certainly a lot of evil present in the political scene. And it's worth noting that this is not the form of government God had in mind when He rescued the Israelites and made them His people.
What do you suppose God thinks of politics in America? I mean, is there a way for it to be godly? Or are we just fooling ourselves to think that we could have a Christian government?
Dean K. - Cuyahoga Falls, OH
Dear Dean,
If you look back at the Old Testament and how governments came about, God always intended to be our King. He didn't want any other kings to be appointed or presidents to be elected. It's the most pure form of what is known as a theocracy. That's a form of government where God (or a god) is recognized as the supreme civil ruler.
It's heart-warming to look democracy and relate it Christian values and virtues. But it really does fall short in that it doesn't recognize the authority of God in everything. If it did, for example, all of our written law (i.e., congressional bills) would be based on Biblical principles. All of our government decisions would be made with prayer and fasting.
The purest form of theocracy that we see today is found in the Islamic states, where civil law defers to the religious law. In places like England, the Queen is head of both church and state. There is no separation, technically speaking. But of course you could hardly call England a theocracy. It functions much like our form of democracy.
So, to answer your question, I suspect that God takes a dim view of American politics. There is certainly a lot of evil present in the political scene. And it's worth noting that this is not the form of government God had in mind when He rescued the Israelites and made them His people.
Thursday, December 16, 2010
Military Gays
Dear Victorious,
Don't you think it's a good idea to keep gays out of the military? I know they are talking about revoking the "don't-ask-don't-tell" policy. But seriously, gays would represent a distraction for most of the soldiers who are straight. Why can't our government see that gays don't belong in the military?
Earl V. - Haltom City, TX
Dear Earl,
No, I don't think it's a good idea to discriminate against anyone because of sin patterns in their life. Of course the military wouldn't allow drug addicts to serve - but only in the context of that addiction being an impediment to them doing their job. If the government could prove that homosexuality is an impediment to someone going their job, then I might be able to go along with keeping that particular gay out of the military.
But to cast a judgment on a whole people group is not only unfair, but it probably is tantamount to shooting ourselves in the foot. I've known some gays and they are often incredibly bright, capable people. As you know, I believe the Bible is clear that men and women are to fight the temptation to same-sex attraction just like they fight the temptation to steal or murder. But like I said, discriminating on the basis of someone's sin seems pretty unwise - even to a conservative like me
Don't you think it's a good idea to keep gays out of the military? I know they are talking about revoking the "don't-ask-don't-tell" policy. But seriously, gays would represent a distraction for most of the soldiers who are straight. Why can't our government see that gays don't belong in the military?
Earl V. - Haltom City, TX
Dear Earl,
No, I don't think it's a good idea to discriminate against anyone because of sin patterns in their life. Of course the military wouldn't allow drug addicts to serve - but only in the context of that addiction being an impediment to them doing their job. If the government could prove that homosexuality is an impediment to someone going their job, then I might be able to go along with keeping that particular gay out of the military.
But to cast a judgment on a whole people group is not only unfair, but it probably is tantamount to shooting ourselves in the foot. I've known some gays and they are often incredibly bright, capable people. As you know, I believe the Bible is clear that men and women are to fight the temptation to same-sex attraction just like they fight the temptation to steal or murder. But like I said, discriminating on the basis of someone's sin seems pretty unwise - even to a conservative like me
Wednesday, December 15, 2010
Studying Philanthropy
Dear Victorious,
I started following you on Facebook and see you making posts about philanthropy. (You were impressed recently with Oprah's giving this year.) But what good is it to follow philanthropy? I mean if you're not a philanthropist yourself, can you really learn anything by watching others give?
Mellege R. - Sydney, NSW, Australia
Dear Mellege,
I'm not sure I would agree that you or I are not philanthropists. The dictionary defines a philanthropist as anyone who is in the habit of performing charitable or benevolent actions. Society tends to take note of those who give in measures that impress us. But the true measure of a philanthropist might quite possibly just be someone who wades into the social ills of life and makes a difference. That being said, I am a philanthropist.
What can we learn from watching the philanthropy practices of others? I could fill a book answering a question like that. Many people give out of their excess. Others give out of their sacrifice. People give to different causes. And the gifts that are given may or may not have any real, tangible impact. I don't know about you, but I'd like to understand how I can give more effectively. I'd also like to know how to refine my giving so that it's in the best context possible.
There are several things that can be observed in the philanthropy of others. For example, it's been proven that financial donors are much more willing to cough up cash for dramatic emergencies than they are for prevention. Why is that? Is it possible that giving in tragedies is more rewarding? Or is it simply that the impact of giving in a crisis is more measurable? These are questions that deserve an answer. And frankly, there are many more questions just like them.
God expects His people to be cheerful givers, and to assist the poor, stand up on behalf of the needy, do unto others and all that stuff. It behoves us to be thoughtful about our obedience to God in this area. Said differently, if it's going to be done, let's be sure we do it well. The only way we can be sure we're doing anything well is if we study what we're doing and make refinements as learning is captured.
I encourage you and everyone else to start viewing yourselves as philanthropists. And start becoming a student of philanthropy. I'm pretty sure you'll be surprised at how much you don't know.
I started following you on Facebook and see you making posts about philanthropy. (You were impressed recently with Oprah's giving this year.) But what good is it to follow philanthropy? I mean if you're not a philanthropist yourself, can you really learn anything by watching others give?
Mellege R. - Sydney, NSW, Australia
Dear Mellege,
I'm not sure I would agree that you or I are not philanthropists. The dictionary defines a philanthropist as anyone who is in the habit of performing charitable or benevolent actions. Society tends to take note of those who give in measures that impress us. But the true measure of a philanthropist might quite possibly just be someone who wades into the social ills of life and makes a difference. That being said, I am a philanthropist.
What can we learn from watching the philanthropy practices of others? I could fill a book answering a question like that. Many people give out of their excess. Others give out of their sacrifice. People give to different causes. And the gifts that are given may or may not have any real, tangible impact. I don't know about you, but I'd like to understand how I can give more effectively. I'd also like to know how to refine my giving so that it's in the best context possible.
There are several things that can be observed in the philanthropy of others. For example, it's been proven that financial donors are much more willing to cough up cash for dramatic emergencies than they are for prevention. Why is that? Is it possible that giving in tragedies is more rewarding? Or is it simply that the impact of giving in a crisis is more measurable? These are questions that deserve an answer. And frankly, there are many more questions just like them.
God expects His people to be cheerful givers, and to assist the poor, stand up on behalf of the needy, do unto others and all that stuff. It behoves us to be thoughtful about our obedience to God in this area. Said differently, if it's going to be done, let's be sure we do it well. The only way we can be sure we're doing anything well is if we study what we're doing and make refinements as learning is captured.
I encourage you and everyone else to start viewing yourselves as philanthropists. And start becoming a student of philanthropy. I'm pretty sure you'll be surprised at how much you don't know.
Tuesday, December 14, 2010
Virgin Again
Dear Victorious,
I was a chaperon with our church's youth group summer camp this past year. The speaker was very charismatic and the teens all seemed to rally around whatever it was he was talking about each day. But one of the things he spoke of puzzled me. I've asked several of my friends about it and still can't seem to get my head around it. He said that even if someone had lost their virginity, they could reclaim it and be a virgin for their future spouse anyway. How could such a thing be possible?
Elias O. - Lubbock, TX
Dear Elias,
Physically such a thing would not be possible. However, spiritually, emotionally, mentally and every other way but physically, it would be possible if there were sincere repentance on the part of the fornicator. Fornication (sex before marriage) and adultery (sex outside of one's marriage) are both sexual sins that can be repented of. When true repentance and turning from these sins occurs, God restores the condition of the heart and blesses the future of that heart. I believe this would have been the context which your youth retreat speaker was referring to.
I was a chaperon with our church's youth group summer camp this past year. The speaker was very charismatic and the teens all seemed to rally around whatever it was he was talking about each day. But one of the things he spoke of puzzled me. I've asked several of my friends about it and still can't seem to get my head around it. He said that even if someone had lost their virginity, they could reclaim it and be a virgin for their future spouse anyway. How could such a thing be possible?
Elias O. - Lubbock, TX
Dear Elias,
Physically such a thing would not be possible. However, spiritually, emotionally, mentally and every other way but physically, it would be possible if there were sincere repentance on the part of the fornicator. Fornication (sex before marriage) and adultery (sex outside of one's marriage) are both sexual sins that can be repented of. When true repentance and turning from these sins occurs, God restores the condition of the heart and blesses the future of that heart. I believe this would have been the context which your youth retreat speaker was referring to.
Monday, December 13, 2010
1 Corinthians 13
Dear Victorious,
I liked your post about love the other day. Have you ever thought about writing a book that would explain 1 Corinthians 13 virtues and attributes of love?
Nona P. - Charlotte, NC
Dear Nona,
No, I haven't. I think such a book would frankly run on forever. It would be a never-ending litany of everyday life experiences in all our relationships ... looking at how love would be in each one of them. I think it would be far more productive if each of us would grasp 1 Corinthians 13 and start making our own lists of what love is and isn't, as well was what love does and doesn't.
How about it? Any of my readers care to send me their own list of things love is and isn't, and does and doesn't ... based on 1 Corinthians 13? I'd love to read them and promise to share the best ones in my blog!
I liked your post about love the other day. Have you ever thought about writing a book that would explain 1 Corinthians 13 virtues and attributes of love?
Nona P. - Charlotte, NC
Dear Nona,
No, I haven't. I think such a book would frankly run on forever. It would be a never-ending litany of everyday life experiences in all our relationships ... looking at how love would be in each one of them. I think it would be far more productive if each of us would grasp 1 Corinthians 13 and start making our own lists of what love is and isn't, as well was what love does and doesn't.
How about it? Any of my readers care to send me their own list of things love is and isn't, and does and doesn't ... based on 1 Corinthians 13? I'd love to read them and promise to share the best ones in my blog!
Sunday, December 12, 2010
Fear of China
Dear Victorious,
I'm new to your blog but did some searches and found you talking about how China doesn't share America's values, etc. Being a second generation Chinese-American, I'm particularly interested in what America thinks of China. It would seem that the American relationship with China has never been better. So what if they don't really share our values? Is there really something to fear here?
Su Lin - Redwood City, CA
Dear Su Lin,
I'm not sure that there is anything specific to fear regarding America's relationship with China. Quite frankly, the Bible tells Christians to live without fear. So even if China were to take over the U.S. and rule it, I couldn't be afraid. That said, the relationship that we have with China is quite complex. Quite honestly, the only thing about it that I fear is that America hasn't spent near enough time in prayer about that relationship. Are we responding to China in God-honoring ways? Frankly, I worry that we're not. And I worry that the reason we're not is because we're deceived by capitalism.
The trade and other dimensions of our relationship with China seem to be dominated by capitalism. At best it is a greed-based system that has always favored the rich and oppressed the poor.
Don't get me wrong. I think capitalism is okay. I just don't think we should let it define foreign policy. I also don't think we should let it define domestic policy either. And I suspect that if we prayed and sought God's wisdom on how to relate effectively with China, He wouldn't tell us to do it with capitalism.
I'm new to your blog but did some searches and found you talking about how China doesn't share America's values, etc. Being a second generation Chinese-American, I'm particularly interested in what America thinks of China. It would seem that the American relationship with China has never been better. So what if they don't really share our values? Is there really something to fear here?
Su Lin - Redwood City, CA
Dear Su Lin,
I'm not sure that there is anything specific to fear regarding America's relationship with China. Quite frankly, the Bible tells Christians to live without fear. So even if China were to take over the U.S. and rule it, I couldn't be afraid. That said, the relationship that we have with China is quite complex. Quite honestly, the only thing about it that I fear is that America hasn't spent near enough time in prayer about that relationship. Are we responding to China in God-honoring ways? Frankly, I worry that we're not. And I worry that the reason we're not is because we're deceived by capitalism.
The trade and other dimensions of our relationship with China seem to be dominated by capitalism. At best it is a greed-based system that has always favored the rich and oppressed the poor.
Don't get me wrong. I think capitalism is okay. I just don't think we should let it define foreign policy. I also don't think we should let it define domestic policy either. And I suspect that if we prayed and sought God's wisdom on how to relate effectively with China, He wouldn't tell us to do it with capitalism.
Saturday, December 11, 2010
Sordid Past
Dear Victorious,
Okay, you always come off as being so righteous. It seems that you possess all the Biblical wisdom one could ask for. And certainly your decision-making abilities seem so profound. How could anyone be this smart or this lucky?
Adam R. - Frisco, TX
Dear Adam,
I'm afraid you've misread me. The truth is that I am an ignorant sinner who can't find his way out of a paper bag! I spent hours and hours each week reading my Bible, searching for context and trying to find practical application of Biblical principles as God reveals them to me in His Word.
I am a born-again Christian ... with a sordid past. Quite frankly, if I shared my testimony here you'd be surprised at how sordid it is. As a matter of fact, before I came to Christ, my character was quite devoid of anything even resembling virtue. I was a liar, greedy, selfish, manipulative --- you can see where this is going. Simply put, I'm a hopeless sinner in desperate need of a Savior. If I didn't have that Savior, I cannot imagine that I would even still be alive today. Surely my own sinful ways would have destroyed me.
Please don't think I'm any better than the worst sinner in the world. I'm not. And that's the truth.
Okay, you always come off as being so righteous. It seems that you possess all the Biblical wisdom one could ask for. And certainly your decision-making abilities seem so profound. How could anyone be this smart or this lucky?
Adam R. - Frisco, TX
Dear Adam,
I'm afraid you've misread me. The truth is that I am an ignorant sinner who can't find his way out of a paper bag! I spent hours and hours each week reading my Bible, searching for context and trying to find practical application of Biblical principles as God reveals them to me in His Word.
I am a born-again Christian ... with a sordid past. Quite frankly, if I shared my testimony here you'd be surprised at how sordid it is. As a matter of fact, before I came to Christ, my character was quite devoid of anything even resembling virtue. I was a liar, greedy, selfish, manipulative --- you can see where this is going. Simply put, I'm a hopeless sinner in desperate need of a Savior. If I didn't have that Savior, I cannot imagine that I would even still be alive today. Surely my own sinful ways would have destroyed me.
Please don't think I'm any better than the worst sinner in the world. I'm not. And that's the truth.
Friday, December 10, 2010
True Meaning of Christmas
Dear Victor,
We always see these heart tugging TV shows and movies, and even songs that talk about "the true meaning of Christmas." What is the "true meaning of Christmas?" I mean, I know the Christmas story of Christ's birth. But is that what Christians should make of it?
Deborah N. - Pineville, AR
Dear Deborah,
The world has spent an extraordinary amount of time and money trying to explain the "true meaning of Christmas." In a nutshell, the world tries to put it in a box of feelings, heart-warming and inspiring of happy tears. The thing is that any definition of the meaning of Christmas that isn't focused on Christ is a lie. As Christians, we shouldn't fall for that deception.
The true meaning of Christmas is simple. Mankind is comprised of people who are born with an innate bent towards sin. Even the best and most righteous of us naturally drift toward evil. As such, we are headed for spiritual death --- life without God, our Maker. But God, in His infinite love and grand grace, sent us a Savior, Jesus Christ. Without Jesus, our lives would have absolutely no basis for hope ... ever.
So we celebrate Christ's birth as we celebrate the birth of eternal hope, and access to eternal life. Really, I don't think there is any other meaning for Christmas than that. In fact, anything else we try to ascribe to it would undoubtedly just dilute the real meaning.
We always see these heart tugging TV shows and movies, and even songs that talk about "the true meaning of Christmas." What is the "true meaning of Christmas?" I mean, I know the Christmas story of Christ's birth. But is that what Christians should make of it?
Deborah N. - Pineville, AR
Dear Deborah,
The world has spent an extraordinary amount of time and money trying to explain the "true meaning of Christmas." In a nutshell, the world tries to put it in a box of feelings, heart-warming and inspiring of happy tears. The thing is that any definition of the meaning of Christmas that isn't focused on Christ is a lie. As Christians, we shouldn't fall for that deception.
The true meaning of Christmas is simple. Mankind is comprised of people who are born with an innate bent towards sin. Even the best and most righteous of us naturally drift toward evil. As such, we are headed for spiritual death --- life without God, our Maker. But God, in His infinite love and grand grace, sent us a Savior, Jesus Christ. Without Jesus, our lives would have absolutely no basis for hope ... ever.
So we celebrate Christ's birth as we celebrate the birth of eternal hope, and access to eternal life. Really, I don't think there is any other meaning for Christmas than that. In fact, anything else we try to ascribe to it would undoubtedly just dilute the real meaning.
Thursday, December 9, 2010
Career Guidance
Dear Victorious,
I'm a senior in high school and one of my friends turned me onto your blog. I especially like this blog, where we can ask questions. I feel as if I'm talking to my dad sometimes when I read it! (Only I think you might be smarter than my dad.) Anyway, I'm looking at college next year and really just don't know what I want to do with my life. Is there a Biblical way to go about picking a career? How should Christians decide about their professions in life?
Ricky E. - Houston, TX
Dear Ricky,
First of all, I doubt very much that I'm smarter than your Dad. When we're teen-agers, we just don't tend to think that much of our parents' wisdom. As you get older, you'll realize that your parents are most likely the smartest, wisest people that you know. (Really!) At any rate, your question is a very good one. It encourages me to see young people like you asking questions like this. It tells me there is great hope for the future that will be in your hands!
So, how should Christians go about picking a profession, deciding on a career, etc.? Actually there is very solid Biblical criteria. I could blog about that for a couple of days at least, but I'll try to put it succinctly here for you. So here's the drill:
1. Realize that true Christ-followers don't have their own careers. They obediently follow Christ wherever He may lead them. That could look like what the world calls a career. But it may not. Either way, our focus is to follow Christ. Are you willing to do that? Even if He calls you, for example, to be poor?
2. Identify and examine your spiritual gifts and aptitudes. How has God wired you and gifted you? What kinds of work in life would make the best use of those attributes? (If you don't know your gifts, take a spiritual gifts assessment.)
3. Finally, realize that in today's society, very few people work in one career or profession their entire life. In fact, it is much more common now for people to have multiple "careers" throughout their lifetime. And very often, they will not be working in a career that their education would have pointed them to. A good example might be all the music majors who work in the IT business.
It's good that you're asking the question. Pray that God will reveal His perfect will for you in His time, and commit yourself to waiting on the Lord. In the meantime, do the next right thing that you can think of to do. And trust God with the details.
I'm a senior in high school and one of my friends turned me onto your blog. I especially like this blog, where we can ask questions. I feel as if I'm talking to my dad sometimes when I read it! (Only I think you might be smarter than my dad.) Anyway, I'm looking at college next year and really just don't know what I want to do with my life. Is there a Biblical way to go about picking a career? How should Christians decide about their professions in life?
Ricky E. - Houston, TX
Dear Ricky,
First of all, I doubt very much that I'm smarter than your Dad. When we're teen-agers, we just don't tend to think that much of our parents' wisdom. As you get older, you'll realize that your parents are most likely the smartest, wisest people that you know. (Really!) At any rate, your question is a very good one. It encourages me to see young people like you asking questions like this. It tells me there is great hope for the future that will be in your hands!
So, how should Christians go about picking a profession, deciding on a career, etc.? Actually there is very solid Biblical criteria. I could blog about that for a couple of days at least, but I'll try to put it succinctly here for you. So here's the drill:
1. Realize that true Christ-followers don't have their own careers. They obediently follow Christ wherever He may lead them. That could look like what the world calls a career. But it may not. Either way, our focus is to follow Christ. Are you willing to do that? Even if He calls you, for example, to be poor?
2. Identify and examine your spiritual gifts and aptitudes. How has God wired you and gifted you? What kinds of work in life would make the best use of those attributes? (If you don't know your gifts, take a spiritual gifts assessment.)
3. Finally, realize that in today's society, very few people work in one career or profession their entire life. In fact, it is much more common now for people to have multiple "careers" throughout their lifetime. And very often, they will not be working in a career that their education would have pointed them to. A good example might be all the music majors who work in the IT business.
It's good that you're asking the question. Pray that God will reveal His perfect will for you in His time, and commit yourself to waiting on the Lord. In the meantime, do the next right thing that you can think of to do. And trust God with the details.
Wednesday, December 8, 2010
Love is ... And does ... And doesn't ...
Dear Victorious,
I know what the famous chapter in 1 Corinthians 13 about love. It's a beautiful definition of love. But in everyday life, it seems easier said than done. What's a practical way to look at love and actually be able to live it out?
Tina T. - Rockville, MD
Dear Tina,
Well, the easiest thing I can think of would actually be a homework assignment for you. Seriously. Sit down with your Bible, a pen, and some paper. Read 1 Corinthians 13. And then start thinking of situations in your life where someone didn't show you that kind of love. And start thinking of situations in your life where you didn't show someone else that kind of love. And then starting writing it out.
Make it a project, as if God had asked you to "finish 1 Corinthians 13 for Him." Here are some examples that come to mind:
Love does hold it over my head and keep putting me down when I forget its birthday.
Love doesn't drag up all my mistakes from the past when we're in an argument.
Love, doesn't get mad when someone else at the last of ice cream and didn't put it on the grocery list (to buy more).
Love picks up the litter that it walks over in the parking lot at the mall.
Love returns the shopping cart to the store or the cart corral at Wal Mart.
Love doesn't cut the expiration date off of coupons so it can try to use them.
Love drives within the posted speed limit - even when there are no cops around.
Are you getting the picture here? Certainly you've been on the receiving and giving end of love that didn't do its job. So list out those situations. In fact, make it a running list and keep jotting things down as the Holy Spirit brings them to mind.
I know what the famous chapter in 1 Corinthians 13 about love. It's a beautiful definition of love. But in everyday life, it seems easier said than done. What's a practical way to look at love and actually be able to live it out?
Tina T. - Rockville, MD
Dear Tina,
Well, the easiest thing I can think of would actually be a homework assignment for you. Seriously. Sit down with your Bible, a pen, and some paper. Read 1 Corinthians 13. And then start thinking of situations in your life where someone didn't show you that kind of love. And start thinking of situations in your life where you didn't show someone else that kind of love. And then starting writing it out.
Make it a project, as if God had asked you to "finish 1 Corinthians 13 for Him." Here are some examples that come to mind:
Love does hold it over my head and keep putting me down when I forget its birthday.
Love doesn't drag up all my mistakes from the past when we're in an argument.
Love, doesn't get mad when someone else at the last of ice cream and didn't put it on the grocery list (to buy more).
Love picks up the litter that it walks over in the parking lot at the mall.
Love returns the shopping cart to the store or the cart corral at Wal Mart.
Love doesn't cut the expiration date off of coupons so it can try to use them.
Love drives within the posted speed limit - even when there are no cops around.
Are you getting the picture here? Certainly you've been on the receiving and giving end of love that didn't do its job. So list out those situations. In fact, make it a running list and keep jotting things down as the Holy Spirit brings them to mind.
Tuesday, December 7, 2010
WikiLeaks
Dear Victorious,
This thing with WikiLeaks seems to be getting out of hand. And it seems to polarize people in that some are okay with it and some are upset about it. What is the appropriate response? Is there a Biblical principle that would be applicable here?
Don D. - Katy, TX
Dear Don,
Yes, I do think there are some Biblical principles that would be applicable relative to the dilemma the world seems to have on its hands with WikiLeaks. Basically we've got one man who believes that forcing transparency among the world's super powers is somehow a virtuous thing to do. There is no question that transparency is a virtue. But forcing it upon anyone is less than righteous.
Consider, for example, if someone got hold of your diary and your checkbook --- and published them both on WikiLeaks. The internal communications of the U.S. government for example, are tantamount to the government processing its thinking. That's a pretty close parallel to your diary ... where you process your thinking. Perhaps publishing the private thoughts of individuals or a government are not particularly wrong. But it is not particularly right either. It's a forced transparency. Otherwise known as a violation.
Biblical principles like respecting those in authority over us, submitting to the government's that God installs over us and treating others as we would like to be treated ourselves - are all applicable here. I believe that WikiLeaks is wrong on several levels. Free speech is a good thing. But it doesn't not give you freedom to do what you want with the speech of others.
This thing with WikiLeaks seems to be getting out of hand. And it seems to polarize people in that some are okay with it and some are upset about it. What is the appropriate response? Is there a Biblical principle that would be applicable here?
Don D. - Katy, TX
Dear Don,
Yes, I do think there are some Biblical principles that would be applicable relative to the dilemma the world seems to have on its hands with WikiLeaks. Basically we've got one man who believes that forcing transparency among the world's super powers is somehow a virtuous thing to do. There is no question that transparency is a virtue. But forcing it upon anyone is less than righteous.
Consider, for example, if someone got hold of your diary and your checkbook --- and published them both on WikiLeaks. The internal communications of the U.S. government for example, are tantamount to the government processing its thinking. That's a pretty close parallel to your diary ... where you process your thinking. Perhaps publishing the private thoughts of individuals or a government are not particularly wrong. But it is not particularly right either. It's a forced transparency. Otherwise known as a violation.
Biblical principles like respecting those in authority over us, submitting to the government's that God installs over us and treating others as we would like to be treated ourselves - are all applicable here. I believe that WikiLeaks is wrong on several levels. Free speech is a good thing. But it doesn't not give you freedom to do what you want with the speech of others.
Monday, December 6, 2010
Christmas Story
Dear Victorious,
Christmas is coming and every time I hear the Christmas story, I wonder how much of it could be true. Frankly, some of it seems rather irrelevant. I mean, is the fact that Jesus laid in a manger really a pertinent point? Are manger scenes, the shepherds watching the star or the wise men bearing gifts really the point? I hate to sound cynical, but it just seems to be a bunch of hype. In your opinion, what is about the Christmas story that really matters most?
Franklin S. - Albuquerque, NM
Dear Franklin,
I'm not sure if I understand your point. What question are you asking here? My sense is that you don't really even have a question - but rather you have somewhat of a beef with all the data points involved. To be clear, the most important elements of the Christmas story can probably be defined in two ways. First, it's the story of God coming to earth in a human form, amidst the humblest of circumstances. Second, it's the fulfillment of generations of prophecy. Finally, it's the massive paradigm shift that mankind needed to resolve our problem with sin.
The manger, the shepherds, the donkey, the star, the wise men, and other data points are just the circumstances. Consider, for example, how the story might look if God had waited until 2010 to come. Joseph and Mary might have been traveling on a budget airline, in the coach section. They'd be begging the hotel for a room - in a city that was sold out. Or maybe they'd have ridden into town on a motorcycle. The wise men would have brought diapers and baby clothes or toys. The shepherds might be replaced with call center representatives ... who saw the news of Christ's birth on Facebook.
I'm not trying to be cute here. But if all these absurd sounding circumstances were what we had to deal with --- the story would be exactly the same. We would still have God coming to earth in a human form, amidst the humblest of circumstances. We would still have the fulfillment of generations of prophecy. And we would still have the massive paradigm shift that mankind so desperately needed to resolve our problem with sin.
The real point of Christmas starts with the fact that we are hopeless sinners who are in dire need of a Savior. And it ends with the fact that God loved us so much that He provided that perfect Savior. Everything else is really just the circumstances. And truth always transcends the circumstances.
Christmas is coming and every time I hear the Christmas story, I wonder how much of it could be true. Frankly, some of it seems rather irrelevant. I mean, is the fact that Jesus laid in a manger really a pertinent point? Are manger scenes, the shepherds watching the star or the wise men bearing gifts really the point? I hate to sound cynical, but it just seems to be a bunch of hype. In your opinion, what is about the Christmas story that really matters most?
Franklin S. - Albuquerque, NM
Dear Franklin,
I'm not sure if I understand your point. What question are you asking here? My sense is that you don't really even have a question - but rather you have somewhat of a beef with all the data points involved. To be clear, the most important elements of the Christmas story can probably be defined in two ways. First, it's the story of God coming to earth in a human form, amidst the humblest of circumstances. Second, it's the fulfillment of generations of prophecy. Finally, it's the massive paradigm shift that mankind needed to resolve our problem with sin.
The manger, the shepherds, the donkey, the star, the wise men, and other data points are just the circumstances. Consider, for example, how the story might look if God had waited until 2010 to come. Joseph and Mary might have been traveling on a budget airline, in the coach section. They'd be begging the hotel for a room - in a city that was sold out. Or maybe they'd have ridden into town on a motorcycle. The wise men would have brought diapers and baby clothes or toys. The shepherds might be replaced with call center representatives ... who saw the news of Christ's birth on Facebook.
I'm not trying to be cute here. But if all these absurd sounding circumstances were what we had to deal with --- the story would be exactly the same. We would still have God coming to earth in a human form, amidst the humblest of circumstances. We would still have the fulfillment of generations of prophecy. And we would still have the massive paradigm shift that mankind so desperately needed to resolve our problem with sin.
The real point of Christmas starts with the fact that we are hopeless sinners who are in dire need of a Savior. And it ends with the fact that God loved us so much that He provided that perfect Savior. Everything else is really just the circumstances. And truth always transcends the circumstances.
Sunday, December 5, 2010
Lonely Holidays
Dear Victorious,
We moved to a new city almost a year ago. All of our close friends and family live more than a thousand miles away. With the holidays approaching, we can't afford to go home to see them, and I'm becoming really depressed about facing the holidays alone. I know, you're going to tell us to get plugged into a local church. We've done that already, but still don't have any friendships that feel like family. Can you make any recommendations? I mean, if Jesus were in a situation like ours, what do you think He would do?
Dinah E. - Elkhart, IN
Dear Dinah,
I like the way you've asked this question. So here's the thing. Jesus would stop making it all about him. Seriously, your perspective seems to put you at the center of Christmas. Frankly, Christmas is not about you. It never has been. Your impending depression is a result of you placing yourself at the center of Christmas, and focusing on what you don't have.
So what could you do? Make a list of all the people you know at work, school, church or even in the neighborhood that may not have family close by. You don't have to know them very well. If you know their name and they know yours, that's close enough.
Now, invite every single one of those people to your home for Christmas dinner. You provide the meat or other main dish and ask every one of them to RSVP and get each of them to bring something to contribute to the meal. Get someone with a guitar to lead some caroling. Or get some party games to play. Put the football game on TV. Go around the room and have everyone introduce themselves, and tell the group what their favorite Christmas was like.
Basically the strategy you want to deploy here is to see yourself as ministering to the neighbors and acquaintances that you've got in this new city. You're not the only one who has nowhere to go for the holidays. So be a solution for all those other people. The best way to get out of a pity party is to throw a party.
We moved to a new city almost a year ago. All of our close friends and family live more than a thousand miles away. With the holidays approaching, we can't afford to go home to see them, and I'm becoming really depressed about facing the holidays alone. I know, you're going to tell us to get plugged into a local church. We've done that already, but still don't have any friendships that feel like family. Can you make any recommendations? I mean, if Jesus were in a situation like ours, what do you think He would do?
Dinah E. - Elkhart, IN
Dear Dinah,
I like the way you've asked this question. So here's the thing. Jesus would stop making it all about him. Seriously, your perspective seems to put you at the center of Christmas. Frankly, Christmas is not about you. It never has been. Your impending depression is a result of you placing yourself at the center of Christmas, and focusing on what you don't have.
So what could you do? Make a list of all the people you know at work, school, church or even in the neighborhood that may not have family close by. You don't have to know them very well. If you know their name and they know yours, that's close enough.
Now, invite every single one of those people to your home for Christmas dinner. You provide the meat or other main dish and ask every one of them to RSVP and get each of them to bring something to contribute to the meal. Get someone with a guitar to lead some caroling. Or get some party games to play. Put the football game on TV. Go around the room and have everyone introduce themselves, and tell the group what their favorite Christmas was like.
Basically the strategy you want to deploy here is to see yourself as ministering to the neighbors and acquaintances that you've got in this new city. You're not the only one who has nowhere to go for the holidays. So be a solution for all those other people. The best way to get out of a pity party is to throw a party.
Saturday, December 4, 2010
Enough Faith?
Dear Victorious,
I've been a Christ-follower for many years now. I actually can't remember any time in my life when I wasn't. Lately I've been involved in some discussion in a small group about faith. How do you know if you have enough faith? What would be the definition "enough faith?"
Marti K. - Ponca City, OK
Dear Marti,
I believe the best definition of enough faith might be better stated as an effective faith. By that I mean a faith which results in changed behaviors. People with an effective faith, for example, make decisions not based on circumstances, popular opinion or even what seems wise and prudent. Rather effective faith causes decisions to be made against who God is, what God promises, and who we are in Christ.
Don't worry about having enough faith. Frankly, none of us can decide to have faith or to make a decision to have more faith. Faith, especially an effective faith, is simply the result of an intimate relationship with God. Matthew 6:33 tells us to, "Seek ye first the Kingdom of God and all His righteousness, and all these things will be added unto you." Spend your time and focus making pursuit of God and His righteous ways your highest priority. When you do, all the faith in the world will be "added unto you."
I've been a Christ-follower for many years now. I actually can't remember any time in my life when I wasn't. Lately I've been involved in some discussion in a small group about faith. How do you know if you have enough faith? What would be the definition "enough faith?"
Marti K. - Ponca City, OK
Dear Marti,
I believe the best definition of enough faith might be better stated as an effective faith. By that I mean a faith which results in changed behaviors. People with an effective faith, for example, make decisions not based on circumstances, popular opinion or even what seems wise and prudent. Rather effective faith causes decisions to be made against who God is, what God promises, and who we are in Christ.
Don't worry about having enough faith. Frankly, none of us can decide to have faith or to make a decision to have more faith. Faith, especially an effective faith, is simply the result of an intimate relationship with God. Matthew 6:33 tells us to, "Seek ye first the Kingdom of God and all His righteousness, and all these things will be added unto you." Spend your time and focus making pursuit of God and His righteous ways your highest priority. When you do, all the faith in the world will be "added unto you."
Friday, December 3, 2010
Honoring Parents
Dear Victorious,
I know the Bible says that we are to honor our parents. From a practical perspective, how exactly do we go about doing that?
Keith C. - Flower Mound, TX
Dear Keith,
As children, we do that by being obedient and respectful to them. As adults, we do that by living the virtuous values that they taught us. I believe that also includes that in their declining years, we make sure that they are taken care of and provided for.
I know the Bible says that we are to honor our parents. From a practical perspective, how exactly do we go about doing that?
Keith C. - Flower Mound, TX
Dear Keith,
As children, we do that by being obedient and respectful to them. As adults, we do that by living the virtuous values that they taught us. I believe that also includes that in their declining years, we make sure that they are taken care of and provided for.
Thursday, December 2, 2010
Hypnosis
Dear Victorious,
Is there any place in the Bible that addresses hypnosis? I mean, is it Biblical or okay for Christians?
David E. - Oshkosh, WI
Dear David,
I'm not aware of any place in the Bible that specifically references hypnosis by name. However --- the Bible is very clear about a broad category that I believe would include hypnosis. The definition of hypnosis is an artificially induced and altered condition and control of the mind. So it is the turning of one's mind over to another medium. It could include a loss of consciousness and a manipulation of one's mind and thinking. This is not Biblical.
Deuteronomy 18:10-12 says, "Let no one be found among you ... who practices divination or sorcery, interprets omens, engages in witchcraft, or casts spells, or who is a medium or spiritist or who consults the dead. Anyone who does these things is detestable to the Lord ..." This scripture reference is broad enough to include the practice of hypnosis. Similar scripture references like this can be found in Leviticus 19 & 20, Exodus 22 and Isaiah 8.
Frankly, I think this makes it pretty clear. Hypnosis is ungodly and should not be entertained by Christ-followers.
Is there any place in the Bible that addresses hypnosis? I mean, is it Biblical or okay for Christians?
David E. - Oshkosh, WI
Dear David,
I'm not aware of any place in the Bible that specifically references hypnosis by name. However --- the Bible is very clear about a broad category that I believe would include hypnosis. The definition of hypnosis is an artificially induced and altered condition and control of the mind. So it is the turning of one's mind over to another medium. It could include a loss of consciousness and a manipulation of one's mind and thinking. This is not Biblical.
Deuteronomy 18:10-12 says, "Let no one be found among you ... who practices divination or sorcery, interprets omens, engages in witchcraft, or casts spells, or who is a medium or spiritist or who consults the dead. Anyone who does these things is detestable to the Lord ..." This scripture reference is broad enough to include the practice of hypnosis. Similar scripture references like this can be found in Leviticus 19 & 20, Exodus 22 and Isaiah 8.
Frankly, I think this makes it pretty clear. Hypnosis is ungodly and should not be entertained by Christ-followers.
Wednesday, December 1, 2010
Illegal Immigrants
Dear Victorious,
What, in your opinion, should be the posture of born-again Christians toward illegal immigrants in our country?
Ellen P. - Boise, ID
Dear Ellen,
To begin with, the posture of born-again Christians toward anything should always be based on the Bible. I think the Bible provides us with two clear principles that would apply and help shape our response toward illegal immigrants:
1. Love them. Have mercy on them and compassion toward them.
2. Hold them accountable. They are law-breakers ... and must face the natural consequences of their active or inactive choice to become illegal immigrants.
Beyond this, perhaps our government should look at the immigration process that we have to see if there to streamline the immigration process so that desperate people seeking a better life aren't as likely to resort to breaking the law to get here or stay here. And perhaps a Christian response could include looking at our government's process and being champions for change as it may be needed to make it more fair, more reasonable, etc.
What, in your opinion, should be the posture of born-again Christians toward illegal immigrants in our country?
Ellen P. - Boise, ID
Dear Ellen,
To begin with, the posture of born-again Christians toward anything should always be based on the Bible. I think the Bible provides us with two clear principles that would apply and help shape our response toward illegal immigrants:
1. Love them. Have mercy on them and compassion toward them.
2. Hold them accountable. They are law-breakers ... and must face the natural consequences of their active or inactive choice to become illegal immigrants.
Beyond this, perhaps our government should look at the immigration process that we have to see if there to streamline the immigration process so that desperate people seeking a better life aren't as likely to resort to breaking the law to get here or stay here. And perhaps a Christian response could include looking at our government's process and being champions for change as it may be needed to make it more fair, more reasonable, etc.
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