Getting Married

Dear Victorious,

What's the best way to catch a husband? (I'm really serious.)

Anonymous - Hartford, CT

Dear Anonymous,

If you're asking from a Biblical point of view, I'd do three things.

First, review and reflect on the two greatest commandments, found in Matthew 22:36-40. Ask yourself how well you've accomplished that and then commit to bettering that.

Second, review and reflect on the definitions of love that are found in 1 Corinthians 13:1-8. Consider what other statements could be written based on what truth this Scripture establishes. For example, "love doesn't get angry when it doesn't get its own way." Or "love is happy to iron your shirts - even if you're old enough to do it yourself." Or even "love is always ready to compromise and sacrifice."

Third, surrender your hopes and dreams of a marriage to the Lord. Pray about the desires of your heart, and ask God to give you the desires He wants you to have. Commit to be accepting and loving of whatever husband God might be willing to give you. And commit to be accepting and loving even if God doesn't want you to have a husband ... or if He doesn't want you to have one now. In other words, set aside your own ambition to have a husband - placing that desire on the altar and trusting God to do what's best for you in His own time. You can use the waiting time to hone your skills in the first two areas I mentioned above.

You will be most attractive to a potential husband when:

1. The Lord really is first and foremost in your life.
2. You really do love all others unconditionally.
3. Your will is completely yielded to God.