Reconciliation

Dear Victorious,

Do you really believe in reconciliation? I mean, do you really think that two people who are estranged for years can truly reconcile?

Susan Q. - Richardson, TX

Dear Susan,

Yes, I do. And it is perhaps the most important issue facing Christianity ... because it is the only ministry that any of us have been given. (2 Corinthians 5:18-19).

Let's look at what reconciliation is. This Scripture that I just referenced explains how God reconciles us to Himself ... by "not counting men's sins against them." So if we are to be reconciled to each other, I believe that is how it must be done. Whatever offense, whatever differences that may have caused the estrangement between two people --- must not be counted against them.

Reconciliation is only possible if both parties equally commit to not holding the sins of each other against them. So, for example, you may be perfectly willing to do that, but if the other party isn't equally willing, reconciliation may continue to be look impossible. But even when this happens, reconciliation can still be hoped for - as we pray for the Lord to soften the heart of the other person and ourselves remain committed to loving them.