Dear Victorious,
Is there Biblical context for choosing to be a vegetarian?
Vegan Christian
Dear Vegan,
Not that I know of. The Old Testament is replete with a plethora of rules about what to eat or not eat, how to eat it, etc. However, that was "the law," and Jesus Christ completed the law. The New Testament sets us free to eat pretty much whatever we want. So if you're a vegan looking to find Biblical support for your lifestyle, you may be hard-pressed to find it. The best you'll find is Biblical admonition to take care of our bodies, refrain from gluttony, etc.
Sunday, May 31, 2009
Saturday, May 30, 2009
Susan Boyle
Dear Victorious,
So where are you now with Susan Boyle? Will she win Britain's Got Talent? What do you think is next for her?
Fan of Susan
Dear Fan,
I too am a fan of Susan. But I am no sure I'm one to ask about where she'll go next. She is a phenomenon. I have to admit, I watched her latest performance (Memory, from Cats) - but it wasn't quite as captivating. It could have been the video quality. My suspicion is that we've seen the best of Susan already. And I doubt we'll see it again until she gets a recording contract and someone professionally manages the capturing of her best singing.
The ironic truth, if we'd ever dare admit it, is that there's a little bit of Susan Boyle in most of us. And it's just aching to get out. That's why I think she fascinates us so!
So where are you now with Susan Boyle? Will she win Britain's Got Talent? What do you think is next for her?
Fan of Susan
Dear Fan,
I too am a fan of Susan. But I am no sure I'm one to ask about where she'll go next. She is a phenomenon. I have to admit, I watched her latest performance (Memory, from Cats) - but it wasn't quite as captivating. It could have been the video quality. My suspicion is that we've seen the best of Susan already. And I doubt we'll see it again until she gets a recording contract and someone professionally manages the capturing of her best singing.
The ironic truth, if we'd ever dare admit it, is that there's a little bit of Susan Boyle in most of us. And it's just aching to get out. That's why I think she fascinates us so!
Friday, May 29, 2009
CR Testimony
Dear Victorious,
So I read your blog yesterday about Celebrate Recovery and this testimony you say God had you write. How about sharing it with us on your blog?
Interested
Dear Interested,
Wow! That's an intimidating request. Publish my testimony for all the world to see. Let me give that some thought - and some prayer. Maybe I will.
So I read your blog yesterday about Celebrate Recovery and this testimony you say God had you write. How about sharing it with us on your blog?
Interested
Dear Interested,
Wow! That's an intimidating request. Publish my testimony for all the world to see. Let me give that some thought - and some prayer. Maybe I will.
Thursday, May 28, 2009
Pet Peeves
Dear Victorious,
Do you have pet peeves? What irks you the most?
Annoyed
Dear Annoyed,
Of course I have pet peeves. I think everyone does. We're human. Things that don't meet our expectations are bound to irritate us. What irks me the most? I'd have to say it is when people assume that "good enough is good enough." That always comes at the expense of excellence. To my way of thinking, this is wrong on so many levels. When I see people giving something what my mother used to call "a lick and a promise" - I get very irritated and sometimes even angry. Usually something unjust is involved when this has happened - so I don't even apologize for my anger, as I conclude it is righteous anger!
Do you have pet peeves? What irks you the most?
Annoyed
Dear Annoyed,
Of course I have pet peeves. I think everyone does. We're human. Things that don't meet our expectations are bound to irritate us. What irks me the most? I'd have to say it is when people assume that "good enough is good enough." That always comes at the expense of excellence. To my way of thinking, this is wrong on so many levels. When I see people giving something what my mother used to call "a lick and a promise" - I get very irritated and sometimes even angry. Usually something unjust is involved when this has happened - so I don't even apologize for my anger, as I conclude it is righteous anger!
Wednesday, May 27, 2009
Gay Marriage
Dear Victor,
What do you think about same-sex marriage and domestic partner benefits?
Nancy R. - Louisville, KY
Dear Nancy,
I believe they are separate issues. I don't believe in same-sex marriage. God defined marriage as being between one man and one woman. So if I were in charge of the world, people would not be legally allowed to marry someone of the same sex. That being said, I believe the concept of domestic partnership is an entirely different matter. How I choose to define my family is not a matter for the law. If I want to leave assets to someone, or share benefits with someone, I don't believe it is a matter for the state. So if I were in charge of the world, I would recognize the right of individuals to choose and protect their legal rights in that light.
To be sure, homosexuality is not God's way. But our country promises everyone the right to choose. That doesn't require that we condone or affirm a religious institution like marriage in any context other than the way God defined it. But it does require that we defend the basic rights of all human beings to live as they choose.
What do you think about same-sex marriage and domestic partner benefits?
Nancy R. - Louisville, KY
Dear Nancy,
I believe they are separate issues. I don't believe in same-sex marriage. God defined marriage as being between one man and one woman. So if I were in charge of the world, people would not be legally allowed to marry someone of the same sex. That being said, I believe the concept of domestic partnership is an entirely different matter. How I choose to define my family is not a matter for the law. If I want to leave assets to someone, or share benefits with someone, I don't believe it is a matter for the state. So if I were in charge of the world, I would recognize the right of individuals to choose and protect their legal rights in that light.
To be sure, homosexuality is not God's way. But our country promises everyone the right to choose. That doesn't require that we condone or affirm a religious institution like marriage in any context other than the way God defined it. But it does require that we defend the basic rights of all human beings to live as they choose.
Tuesday, May 26, 2009
Why Pray
Dear Victor,
Why should I pray about anything? If God is sovereign and everything is pre-destined, isn't praying for anything or about anything pretty much an exercise in futility?
Prayer Skeptic
Dear Skeptic,
Your logic is only partly correct. Yes it is true that God is sovereign and in control of everything. But it appears that you misunderstand what pre-destiny really is ... and isn't. God said in Jeremiah 29:11 that only He knows the plans He has for us. He mentions there that His plans for us are to give us a good future, with hope. He does not say how this will come about.
What we do know about God, from studying His character and nature in both the Old and New Testaments, is that He is very much a purpose-driven God. Everything He does or doesn't do is purposeful. So whatever God allows to happen, makes happen, or prevents is for a good reason. We are assured of that throughout Scripture. Now stop and thing about the possibility that God might change His mind. This would also not be without its purpose. If God were to change His mind, he would be purposeful about it.
There is sufficient evidence throughout Scripture that God changes His mind. Especially in the Old Testament, we see numerous examples of God being willing to talk things over. He demonstrates that He's willing to consider all sides of the story. He can sometimes be convinced to take things another direction. That doesn't mean He changes His original purpose or plan. But it does mean He may be willing to go about it another way. There is power in the prayers of godly men and women. This is as core of a belief as is the resurrection of Christ to Christianity.
So why should you pray? Two reasons, really. First, there is power in prayer. Prayer can change things. Second, God commands us to pray about everything, without ceasing. So beyond the hope dimension (i.e., hoping for a different outcome), there is the obedience dimension. Do you want to be obedient to God? Do you hope for a different outcome to a particular situation or scenario? Then you must pray.
Why should I pray about anything? If God is sovereign and everything is pre-destined, isn't praying for anything or about anything pretty much an exercise in futility?
Prayer Skeptic
Dear Skeptic,
Your logic is only partly correct. Yes it is true that God is sovereign and in control of everything. But it appears that you misunderstand what pre-destiny really is ... and isn't. God said in Jeremiah 29:11 that only He knows the plans He has for us. He mentions there that His plans for us are to give us a good future, with hope. He does not say how this will come about.
What we do know about God, from studying His character and nature in both the Old and New Testaments, is that He is very much a purpose-driven God. Everything He does or doesn't do is purposeful. So whatever God allows to happen, makes happen, or prevents is for a good reason. We are assured of that throughout Scripture. Now stop and thing about the possibility that God might change His mind. This would also not be without its purpose. If God were to change His mind, he would be purposeful about it.
There is sufficient evidence throughout Scripture that God changes His mind. Especially in the Old Testament, we see numerous examples of God being willing to talk things over. He demonstrates that He's willing to consider all sides of the story. He can sometimes be convinced to take things another direction. That doesn't mean He changes His original purpose or plan. But it does mean He may be willing to go about it another way. There is power in the prayers of godly men and women. This is as core of a belief as is the resurrection of Christ to Christianity.
So why should you pray? Two reasons, really. First, there is power in prayer. Prayer can change things. Second, God commands us to pray about everything, without ceasing. So beyond the hope dimension (i.e., hoping for a different outcome), there is the obedience dimension. Do you want to be obedient to God? Do you hope for a different outcome to a particular situation or scenario? Then you must pray.
Sunday, May 24, 2009
Socialist State
Dear Victorious,
(Can I call you Victor? Victorious sounds like such rhetoric!) Do you think America is becoming a socialist state under Obama's leadership?
Marko D. - Little Rock, AR
Dear Marko,
I guess you can call me Victor. No problem. (We both know it's a "pen name" anyway!) Is America becoming a socialist state under Obama? I don't really know. To be honest, I don't think anyone can really know. I suppose anything is possible at this point. But even if it is, I think the honest truth is most people won't mind all that much. America is saddled with a lot of debt and a lot of problems. If the government can make things seem to work without asking much personal sacrifice of any of us, I imagine that most people would go along with it.
The American standard would probably better embrace nationalizing our banks or large manufacturing --- than they would a cut in Social Security benefits or tangible increase in taxes. Most of us vote for things that impact us the most personally. We tend to be indifferent about the bigger picture things that don't appear to directly affect us. For this reason, I think it's possible we see more socialistic movements and policies. Frankly, if we had to pay enough taxes to support the level of government that we already have --- there would be a revolt in this country.
We all need to pray for God's will to be done here. I heard a commentator on talk radio this past week. He claimed that research of world history reveals no country ever fell when it was submitted to God. He said that no government ever failed while obeying God. I think this is probably true. But then I thought about how many countries and governments have fallen. And I wondered if the U.S. can be any different. Will we be the obedient country, fully submitted to God, which doesn't fall?
(Can I call you Victor? Victorious sounds like such rhetoric!) Do you think America is becoming a socialist state under Obama's leadership?
Marko D. - Little Rock, AR
Dear Marko,
I guess you can call me Victor. No problem. (We both know it's a "pen name" anyway!) Is America becoming a socialist state under Obama? I don't really know. To be honest, I don't think anyone can really know. I suppose anything is possible at this point. But even if it is, I think the honest truth is most people won't mind all that much. America is saddled with a lot of debt and a lot of problems. If the government can make things seem to work without asking much personal sacrifice of any of us, I imagine that most people would go along with it.
The American standard would probably better embrace nationalizing our banks or large manufacturing --- than they would a cut in Social Security benefits or tangible increase in taxes. Most of us vote for things that impact us the most personally. We tend to be indifferent about the bigger picture things that don't appear to directly affect us. For this reason, I think it's possible we see more socialistic movements and policies. Frankly, if we had to pay enough taxes to support the level of government that we already have --- there would be a revolt in this country.
We all need to pray for God's will to be done here. I heard a commentator on talk radio this past week. He claimed that research of world history reveals no country ever fell when it was submitted to God. He said that no government ever failed while obeying God. I think this is probably true. But then I thought about how many countries and governments have fallen. And I wondered if the U.S. can be any different. Will we be the obedient country, fully submitted to God, which doesn't fall?
Saturday, May 23, 2009
Abortion Statistics
Dear Victorious,
I've read that more than 50 million abortions have been performed in America since the Roe vs. Wade decision. How should we think about such a number? What context does it belong in?
Pro-Lifer
Dear Pro,
I have no reason to doubt the number, so I'll trust the experts in the media and assume that it is reasonably accurate. But if that is the case, then the number doesn't really tell the story. Consider that babies were being aborted in the 1970's. If those babies had not been aborted, they would be adults now, working and raising their own families. So, for example, if we hadn't aborted those babies, America's population would be more than 50 million larger right now. In fact, I expect it would be considerably more. Perhaps we have an unnatural deficit of 100 million people as a result of those 50 million abortions.
What context should we put this in? We should consider it one of the greatest travesties of the human race. I can think of no other single act or single decision that has cost more in terms of human life. Not even the Jewish holocaust had numbers in this stratosphere. Even if you found no moral dilemma with abortion itself, you would have to consider the impact on society of 50 million minds that never got applied to the human experiment. Each one of those 50 million had a God-given purpose. But it will never be fulfilled.
I for one wonder what some of those purposes were. What unknown costs are we paying as the price for having kept these creations of God from serving their purpose?
I've read that more than 50 million abortions have been performed in America since the Roe vs. Wade decision. How should we think about such a number? What context does it belong in?
Pro-Lifer
Dear Pro,
I have no reason to doubt the number, so I'll trust the experts in the media and assume that it is reasonably accurate. But if that is the case, then the number doesn't really tell the story. Consider that babies were being aborted in the 1970's. If those babies had not been aborted, they would be adults now, working and raising their own families. So, for example, if we hadn't aborted those babies, America's population would be more than 50 million larger right now. In fact, I expect it would be considerably more. Perhaps we have an unnatural deficit of 100 million people as a result of those 50 million abortions.
What context should we put this in? We should consider it one of the greatest travesties of the human race. I can think of no other single act or single decision that has cost more in terms of human life. Not even the Jewish holocaust had numbers in this stratosphere. Even if you found no moral dilemma with abortion itself, you would have to consider the impact on society of 50 million minds that never got applied to the human experiment. Each one of those 50 million had a God-given purpose. But it will never be fulfilled.
I for one wonder what some of those purposes were. What unknown costs are we paying as the price for having kept these creations of God from serving their purpose?
Friday, May 22, 2009
Friendship
Dear Victor,
How do I know if someone is a true friend?
Jose G. - San Marcos, TX
Dear Jose,
I suppose that the greatest evidence of friendship is loyalty. If we look at 1 Corinthians 13 and its definitions of love, we see all of love defined in virtuous acts towards another. They add up to being available for someone --- to help in times of trouble, to embrace when I needed it, to accept me, to forgive me, to guide me, etc. The truest friend I can imagine would be the one who knows the very worst that there is to be known about me ... and decides to love and stick by me anyway.
Having said this though, let me encourage you not to try and figure out who your true friends are. That's just passing how they treat you through the love and friendship filter. A more valiant effort would be to pass yourself and your behavior towards others through that filter. To whom are you a true friend? To whom do you behave in these ways? That is a much better question to answer!
How do I know if someone is a true friend?
Jose G. - San Marcos, TX
Dear Jose,
I suppose that the greatest evidence of friendship is loyalty. If we look at 1 Corinthians 13 and its definitions of love, we see all of love defined in virtuous acts towards another. They add up to being available for someone --- to help in times of trouble, to embrace when I needed it, to accept me, to forgive me, to guide me, etc. The truest friend I can imagine would be the one who knows the very worst that there is to be known about me ... and decides to love and stick by me anyway.
Having said this though, let me encourage you not to try and figure out who your true friends are. That's just passing how they treat you through the love and friendship filter. A more valiant effort would be to pass yourself and your behavior towards others through that filter. To whom are you a true friend? To whom do you behave in these ways? That is a much better question to answer!
Thursday, May 21, 2009
Philippians 4:8 Movies
Dear Victorious,
I know you've blogged in the past about using Philippians 4:8 as a "filter" on what we should watch on TV, listen to, etc. Can you recommend some movies or TV shows that you think would meet the Philippians 4:8 test?
Movie Fan
Dear Movie,
Philippians 4:8 admonishes us to focus on things that are "excellent and worthy of praise." In my mind, entertainment that meets this criteria can be just that - entertaining. Or it can be entertainment with a purpose. But it must not be offensive, violating God's standards. We could argue all day about what that is. In my book, here are some of my favorite movies:
Night At the Museum
Legally Blonde
Sister Act (1 & 2)
City Slickers
Mrs. Doubtfire
Star Trek
In terms of TV shows, there is a plethora of shows on Discovery, Learning and Animal channels. I also like the home and gardening shows. Of the sitcoms, most of them use sarcasm. But the less offensive ones that I would watch include:
Everybody Loves Raymond
Friends
Still Standing
Reba
Of course Christian TV and movies are usually good choices. I also find documentaries are a good choice - like historical movies such as Last King of Scotland or Hotel Rwanda. They help us understand the reality of the world we live in.
Hope that helps!
I know you've blogged in the past about using Philippians 4:8 as a "filter" on what we should watch on TV, listen to, etc. Can you recommend some movies or TV shows that you think would meet the Philippians 4:8 test?
Movie Fan
Dear Movie,
Philippians 4:8 admonishes us to focus on things that are "excellent and worthy of praise." In my mind, entertainment that meets this criteria can be just that - entertaining. Or it can be entertainment with a purpose. But it must not be offensive, violating God's standards. We could argue all day about what that is. In my book, here are some of my favorite movies:
Night At the Museum
Legally Blonde
Sister Act (1 & 2)
City Slickers
Mrs. Doubtfire
Star Trek
In terms of TV shows, there is a plethora of shows on Discovery, Learning and Animal channels. I also like the home and gardening shows. Of the sitcoms, most of them use sarcasm. But the less offensive ones that I would watch include:
Everybody Loves Raymond
Friends
Still Standing
Reba
Of course Christian TV and movies are usually good choices. I also find documentaries are a good choice - like historical movies such as Last King of Scotland or Hotel Rwanda. They help us understand the reality of the world we live in.
Hope that helps!
Wednesday, May 20, 2009
Why Lie?
Dear Victorious,
Why do people lie?
Sidney M. - Carrollton, TX
Dear Sidney,
I suppose the most common reason people lie is to get something they want or to avoid something they don't want. But I believe the most common motive for lying is fear. We are afraid - if we'll be honest about it - that our inner thoughts and motives or emotions will be discovered. And we find them to be unacceptable. We don't want anyone else to find them that way. We are afraid that our mistakes will be discovered. Eve if we believe we can avoid direct consequences, we wish to avoid being known for our mistakes or dishonorable thoughts and motives.
Why do people lie?
Sidney M. - Carrollton, TX
Dear Sidney,
I suppose the most common reason people lie is to get something they want or to avoid something they don't want. But I believe the most common motive for lying is fear. We are afraid - if we'll be honest about it - that our inner thoughts and motives or emotions will be discovered. And we find them to be unacceptable. We don't want anyone else to find them that way. We are afraid that our mistakes will be discovered. Eve if we believe we can avoid direct consequences, we wish to avoid being known for our mistakes or dishonorable thoughts and motives.
Tuesday, May 19, 2009
Leave A Legacy
Our preacher preached this weekend on leaving a legacy. As you might expect, he focused on good versus bad legacies, and encouraged us to focus on leaving a good legacy - of building into other people (instead of things). If I'm already volunteering and serving, what more can I do to leave a good legacy?
Martin V. - Frisco, TX
Dear Martin,
It sounds like you and I may have attended the same church this past Sunday. I heard a sermon like that too! I've heard the sermons and the songs about leaving a legacy that's worth leaving. But I think we miss something pretty important here.
I'd rather leave God's legacy than one of my own. Frankly, I don't care if anyone remembers me when I'm gone. I'd much rather they be more focused on God when I'm gone. That's the only legacy I'd like to leave!
So while the preacher can exhort you to build your own legacy, I will exhort you to build God's legacy instead. Don't worry about how much you volunteer, or how much so-called quality time you spend with your children. Instead think about how much Jesus people see in you. Are you a good window for them to see and experience the love of Christ? That is the legacy that's most worth leaving.
Martin V. - Frisco, TX
Dear Martin,
It sounds like you and I may have attended the same church this past Sunday. I heard a sermon like that too! I've heard the sermons and the songs about leaving a legacy that's worth leaving. But I think we miss something pretty important here.
I'd rather leave God's legacy than one of my own. Frankly, I don't care if anyone remembers me when I'm gone. I'd much rather they be more focused on God when I'm gone. That's the only legacy I'd like to leave!
So while the preacher can exhort you to build your own legacy, I will exhort you to build God's legacy instead. Don't worry about how much you volunteer, or how much so-called quality time you spend with your children. Instead think about how much Jesus people see in you. Are you a good window for them to see and experience the love of Christ? That is the legacy that's most worth leaving.
Monday, May 18, 2009
Celebrity Admiration
Dear Victorious,
You seem to disapprove of celebrities in general. (You've written negatively about Britney Spears, for example.) Are there any (living) celebrities that you admire?
Hollywood Fan
Dear Hollywood,
I don't think it's fair to say that I disapprove of celebrities in general. The majority of them just tend not to exhibit virtues that I myself would aspire to - or agree with. The truth of the matter is that there are several celebrities I admire.
Cher and Madonna both have exhibited an amazing ability to reinvent themselves - over and over again. They are good performers and know how to work an opportunity. I admire that. I don't agree with their morals, and I don't appreciate all of their music. But I wish each of us could develop their ability to reinvent ourselves.
Bill Cosby and Denzel Washington both exhibit strong family values. While both have been wildly successful and are insanely wealthy - both have remained true to their wives. Neither has tried to milk the situation they find themselves in. Instead they go about their business, being quiet examples of true gentlemen. I wish more of us had their charm and charisma, coupled with their strong sense of family values.
Maybe you see the pattern here. It is the celebrity with a remarkable ability or virtuous values that attracts me the most. Come to think of it, whether they're celebrities or not - those are typically the people I'm naturally excited about ... the ones with strong abilities and strong, virtuous values.
You seem to disapprove of celebrities in general. (You've written negatively about Britney Spears, for example.) Are there any (living) celebrities that you admire?
Hollywood Fan
Dear Hollywood,
I don't think it's fair to say that I disapprove of celebrities in general. The majority of them just tend not to exhibit virtues that I myself would aspire to - or agree with. The truth of the matter is that there are several celebrities I admire.
Cher and Madonna both have exhibited an amazing ability to reinvent themselves - over and over again. They are good performers and know how to work an opportunity. I admire that. I don't agree with their morals, and I don't appreciate all of their music. But I wish each of us could develop their ability to reinvent ourselves.
Bill Cosby and Denzel Washington both exhibit strong family values. While both have been wildly successful and are insanely wealthy - both have remained true to their wives. Neither has tried to milk the situation they find themselves in. Instead they go about their business, being quiet examples of true gentlemen. I wish more of us had their charm and charisma, coupled with their strong sense of family values.
Maybe you see the pattern here. It is the celebrity with a remarkable ability or virtuous values that attracts me the most. Come to think of it, whether they're celebrities or not - those are typically the people I'm naturally excited about ... the ones with strong abilities and strong, virtuous values.
Sunday, May 17, 2009
Problem Solving
Dear Victorious,
As a Christ-follower, I want to do things God's way. But there are some problems in life that just seem unsolvable. Is that true?
Troubled Follower
Dear Troubled,
I don't think unsolvable is the right way to think about it. Some problems in life can be solved by careful thought - using the brain God gave us. Some problems get solved when priorities get re-arranged. Some problems can be solved by discussion with godly people and good counsel from those people. But some problems can only be solved by prayer.
The other thing to consider is how our definition of a solution or a problem solved might differ from God's. It is possible that God's answer to your problem is not to take it away, but rather to give you a different perspective about the problem. Are you willing to accept that solution?
As a Christ-follower, I want to do things God's way. But there are some problems in life that just seem unsolvable. Is that true?
Troubled Follower
Dear Troubled,
I don't think unsolvable is the right way to think about it. Some problems in life can be solved by careful thought - using the brain God gave us. Some problems get solved when priorities get re-arranged. Some problems can be solved by discussion with godly people and good counsel from those people. But some problems can only be solved by prayer.
The other thing to consider is how our definition of a solution or a problem solved might differ from God's. It is possible that God's answer to your problem is not to take it away, but rather to give you a different perspective about the problem. Are you willing to accept that solution?
Saturday, May 16, 2009
Idol Worship
Dear Victorious,
We read so much in the Bible about the notion of worshipping idols. But honestly, I don't see people gathering around golden calves or shrines today in Christianity. Isn't this really a thing of the past?
True Worshipper
Dear True,
An idol can be, in the biblical sense, anything that is referenced more than God. It can be anything that I treat as reverently as I treat God (or perhaps even more so). What in my life gets higher priority than God? For some, it may be sports. For others it may be sleep, and so forth. Money, convenience, entertainment, TV, exercise, recognition and our children can all fall into this category. Many is the time I've heard someone say something like, "My children are my life." This is very dangerous territory to be in! If your children, sports, hobbies, work or anything else are your life - then it leaves little room for the true worship of God. This only occurs when these false idols are worshipped.
We read so much in the Bible about the notion of worshipping idols. But honestly, I don't see people gathering around golden calves or shrines today in Christianity. Isn't this really a thing of the past?
True Worshipper
Dear True,
An idol can be, in the biblical sense, anything that is referenced more than God. It can be anything that I treat as reverently as I treat God (or perhaps even more so). What in my life gets higher priority than God? For some, it may be sports. For others it may be sleep, and so forth. Money, convenience, entertainment, TV, exercise, recognition and our children can all fall into this category. Many is the time I've heard someone say something like, "My children are my life." This is very dangerous territory to be in! If your children, sports, hobbies, work or anything else are your life - then it leaves little room for the true worship of God. This only occurs when these false idols are worshipped.
Friday, May 15, 2009
True Love
Dear Victorious,
I know you've written about love in the past and even answered letters about it. But I haven' seen you address my question. How do I know if someone really and truly loves me?
Lashonda R. - Tulsa, OK
Dear Lashonda,
The first thing you need to understand about love is that it is not a feeling. If someone makes you feel passionate and excited, that is not a sign of love. It could accompany love. But on its own, feelings and emotions are not love.
1 Corinthians 13, as well as other Scriptures give us wonderful insight into what love is. Love has many characteristics. And all of them must be discovered and proven over time. Love stands the test of time.
So what does love look like and how would you recognize it? Love is patient. Love is kind. Love keeps no record or account of how you've wronged or offended it. Love is quick to forgive. In fact, love is generous with forgiveness - offering it even when forgiveness isn't deserved. Love makes sacrifices. It makes personal sacrifices ... setting aside its own will to accommodate or please you. Love is accepting, never judgmental. Love is a good listener. If you find these things - and they stand the test of time, then there is a good chance you've found true love.
But there is one other thing you must consider. You must ask yourself if YOU are love. Do I love this person, whom I wonder about loving me? Do you offer them all of the things I just said above? Have you asked God to help you love them more effectively? Are you willing to do what love requires? And will your love for them stand the test of time?
You see, that's the thing about love. It is a two-way street. So the question isn't just whether or not you can tell if someone loves you. Perhaps the better question that is more important to answer is whether you are prepared to love them.
I know you've written about love in the past and even answered letters about it. But I haven' seen you address my question. How do I know if someone really and truly loves me?
Lashonda R. - Tulsa, OK
Dear Lashonda,
The first thing you need to understand about love is that it is not a feeling. If someone makes you feel passionate and excited, that is not a sign of love. It could accompany love. But on its own, feelings and emotions are not love.
1 Corinthians 13, as well as other Scriptures give us wonderful insight into what love is. Love has many characteristics. And all of them must be discovered and proven over time. Love stands the test of time.
So what does love look like and how would you recognize it? Love is patient. Love is kind. Love keeps no record or account of how you've wronged or offended it. Love is quick to forgive. In fact, love is generous with forgiveness - offering it even when forgiveness isn't deserved. Love makes sacrifices. It makes personal sacrifices ... setting aside its own will to accommodate or please you. Love is accepting, never judgmental. Love is a good listener. If you find these things - and they stand the test of time, then there is a good chance you've found true love.
But there is one other thing you must consider. You must ask yourself if YOU are love. Do I love this person, whom I wonder about loving me? Do you offer them all of the things I just said above? Have you asked God to help you love them more effectively? Are you willing to do what love requires? And will your love for them stand the test of time?
You see, that's the thing about love. It is a two-way street. So the question isn't just whether or not you can tell if someone loves you. Perhaps the better question that is more important to answer is whether you are prepared to love them.
Thursday, May 14, 2009
Meaning of Life
Dear Victorious,
What is the meaning of life?
James B. - Singapore
Dear James,
The meaning of life is our purpose. Our purpose is to please God. The Bible tells us that God created the heavens and the earth, as well as everything in them. You have to ask yourself why He would do it. We know that He is a jealous God --- wanting no other gods before Him. We know that He insists of having things His way. So if that is His character and nature, then the only possible reason we could have been created is because it pleased Him in some way. It serves His purpose. So our purpose in life - our reason for existing - yours and mine - is to please God in whatever way(s) He may define that.
(By the way, I think yours is the first letter I've ever received from outside the U.S.!)
What is the meaning of life?
James B. - Singapore
Dear James,
The meaning of life is our purpose. Our purpose is to please God. The Bible tells us that God created the heavens and the earth, as well as everything in them. You have to ask yourself why He would do it. We know that He is a jealous God --- wanting no other gods before Him. We know that He insists of having things His way. So if that is His character and nature, then the only possible reason we could have been created is because it pleased Him in some way. It serves His purpose. So our purpose in life - our reason for existing - yours and mine - is to please God in whatever way(s) He may define that.
(By the way, I think yours is the first letter I've ever received from outside the U.S.!)
Wednesday, May 13, 2009
I Love You All
Dear Victorious,
We often hear celebrities talk about how much they love their fans. They'll be on stage and say something like, "I love you all" or, "I love all my loyal fans." Do you think it's true? Could they really love their fans as they say they do?
Loyal Fan
Dear Loyal,
I doubt it. Much of the value of what a celebrity says is held in the meaning of the word "love." Think about the relationship between a celebrity and and the fans. The celebrity does something once ... like record a song. Then we celebrate them for years and years. And we pay them for that song for years and years. Or the celebrity films a movie or TV show. They get paid to do it up front. And then we talk about it, celebrate them and continue to pay them for it for years and years. It's a bit of a one-sided relationship in terms of money. Admittedly, the celebrity's feat, aided by media, entertains us for years and years. But what they did they only did once --- and they were well paid for it.
If I did something for you once, and got paid handsomely for it --- would you think I love you? So what's the truth of the situation? My guess is a more truthful statement would be something like, "I'm so grateful for my loyal fans." We don't hear celebrities use those words much; they seem to like the world "love" a great deal more. It sounds so much more endearing too! At best, the celebrities are grateful. At worst, they may be selfish, self-centered and just enamored with the fact that they have fans. But in most cases, I'd give them the benefit of the doubt and call them grateful for all their loyal fans.
We often hear celebrities talk about how much they love their fans. They'll be on stage and say something like, "I love you all" or, "I love all my loyal fans." Do you think it's true? Could they really love their fans as they say they do?
Loyal Fan
Dear Loyal,
I doubt it. Much of the value of what a celebrity says is held in the meaning of the word "love." Think about the relationship between a celebrity and and the fans. The celebrity does something once ... like record a song. Then we celebrate them for years and years. And we pay them for that song for years and years. Or the celebrity films a movie or TV show. They get paid to do it up front. And then we talk about it, celebrate them and continue to pay them for it for years and years. It's a bit of a one-sided relationship in terms of money. Admittedly, the celebrity's feat, aided by media, entertains us for years and years. But what they did they only did once --- and they were well paid for it.
If I did something for you once, and got paid handsomely for it --- would you think I love you? So what's the truth of the situation? My guess is a more truthful statement would be something like, "I'm so grateful for my loyal fans." We don't hear celebrities use those words much; they seem to like the world "love" a great deal more. It sounds so much more endearing too! At best, the celebrities are grateful. At worst, they may be selfish, self-centered and just enamored with the fact that they have fans. But in most cases, I'd give them the benefit of the doubt and call them grateful for all their loyal fans.
Tuesday, May 12, 2009
Realtors
Dear Victorious,
What do you think of Realtors and their role in society today?
Shopping for A Home
Dear Shopping,
I've worked with several Realtors through the years. In most cases, it was a pleasure to work with them. I remember most of their names, and all of their personalities - even those I worked with 25 years ago. So I believe that the good Realtors are notable personalities.
The problem with Realtors is that they have a choke hold on the real estate transaction. It is nearly impossible to find a suitable home - amongst the thousands to pick from - without the expert help and resources of a Realtor. It is even more impossible to sell your home - without engaging the resources of a Realtor. Realtors control the multiple listing service (MLS) - a national data base of homes available for sale. If your house isn't on it, there's scant chance you'll find a buyer.
Most people think that Realtors charge too much. Typical commissions on a transaction tend to be from 6-7% of the sales price (although some have been known to negotiate or offer discounts on multiple transactions, etc.) To be honest, I don't know if that's a fair price for the value of the services they provide. We can't get those services from anyone else - so we can never know. Simply put, Realtors have a monopoly on this. They have no real competition.
Some thought that the Internet might undo the Realtors. The word is "disenfranchised." It was thought that the Internet could make Realtors less relevant or at least less critical to the transaction. That's largely proved not to be the case. Web sites like RealEstate.com went bankrupt - trying to list and sell homes without Realtors. Even on the Internet, the most robust source of homes for sale will today be found at the Realtors' own national web site - Realtor.com.
So what do I think of Realtors? I don't like the fact that they have a monopoly and that I am forced to do business with them. At the same time, as individuals, I respect their work and appreciate the level of service I get from them. You should too!
What do you think of Realtors and their role in society today?
Shopping for A Home
Dear Shopping,
I've worked with several Realtors through the years. In most cases, it was a pleasure to work with them. I remember most of their names, and all of their personalities - even those I worked with 25 years ago. So I believe that the good Realtors are notable personalities.
The problem with Realtors is that they have a choke hold on the real estate transaction. It is nearly impossible to find a suitable home - amongst the thousands to pick from - without the expert help and resources of a Realtor. It is even more impossible to sell your home - without engaging the resources of a Realtor. Realtors control the multiple listing service (MLS) - a national data base of homes available for sale. If your house isn't on it, there's scant chance you'll find a buyer.
Most people think that Realtors charge too much. Typical commissions on a transaction tend to be from 6-7% of the sales price (although some have been known to negotiate or offer discounts on multiple transactions, etc.) To be honest, I don't know if that's a fair price for the value of the services they provide. We can't get those services from anyone else - so we can never know. Simply put, Realtors have a monopoly on this. They have no real competition.
Some thought that the Internet might undo the Realtors. The word is "disenfranchised." It was thought that the Internet could make Realtors less relevant or at least less critical to the transaction. That's largely proved not to be the case. Web sites like RealEstate.com went bankrupt - trying to list and sell homes without Realtors. Even on the Internet, the most robust source of homes for sale will today be found at the Realtors' own national web site - Realtor.com.
So what do I think of Realtors? I don't like the fact that they have a monopoly and that I am forced to do business with them. At the same time, as individuals, I respect their work and appreciate the level of service I get from them. You should too!
Monday, May 11, 2009
Evil Today
Dear Victorious,
I saw your blog about the "blasphemy challenge." It seems you have concluded that evil is all around us and that it is prevailing in the world. Isn't this a cynical point of view? Don't you think things like that "blasphemy challenge" are more aberrations and not typical of our culture?
Reality Based
Dear Reality,
You know, I would like to have a civilized debate with you on this subject. Unfortunately, there is not even the slightest chance that I am wrong here. The world is bad and it is getting worse. Having people publicly proclaim that there is no god is only an example of the reality we're living in. Here are some other examples:
More Christians have been martyred for their faith (i.e., killed for being Christians) in the past century than in all the other centuries since Christ's death put together.
This month, in addition to honoring mother's and prayer, has been set aside as "National Masturbation Month" - in which Americans are supposed to celebrate masturbation.
More Americans are incarcerated than in any other country on earth. The U.S. has more people in prison than China, Russia, Indonesia, India or any other country. And mind you, some of these countries have three times the population that we do!
More than 2 million people are enslaved in western countries right now. Most are serving as sexual slaves or domestics. Its estimated that about half of them are children (most of whom are the sexual slaves).
Pornography is the most prevalent user of the Internet. It takes up more of our Internet bandwidth than news, research, entertainment, travel, business or any other sector of society. And it's growing at a breakneck speed too.
So no, I am not being pessimistic. The Bible tells us that the closer we get to the end times (when Christ will return) it is going to get uglier and uglier. I'm just observing the fact that it is.
I saw your blog about the "blasphemy challenge." It seems you have concluded that evil is all around us and that it is prevailing in the world. Isn't this a cynical point of view? Don't you think things like that "blasphemy challenge" are more aberrations and not typical of our culture?
Reality Based
Dear Reality,
You know, I would like to have a civilized debate with you on this subject. Unfortunately, there is not even the slightest chance that I am wrong here. The world is bad and it is getting worse. Having people publicly proclaim that there is no god is only an example of the reality we're living in. Here are some other examples:
More Christians have been martyred for their faith (i.e., killed for being Christians) in the past century than in all the other centuries since Christ's death put together.
This month, in addition to honoring mother's and prayer, has been set aside as "National Masturbation Month" - in which Americans are supposed to celebrate masturbation.
More Americans are incarcerated than in any other country on earth. The U.S. has more people in prison than China, Russia, Indonesia, India or any other country. And mind you, some of these countries have three times the population that we do!
More than 2 million people are enslaved in western countries right now. Most are serving as sexual slaves or domestics. Its estimated that about half of them are children (most of whom are the sexual slaves).
Pornography is the most prevalent user of the Internet. It takes up more of our Internet bandwidth than news, research, entertainment, travel, business or any other sector of society. And it's growing at a breakneck speed too.
So no, I am not being pessimistic. The Bible tells us that the closer we get to the end times (when Christ will return) it is going to get uglier and uglier. I'm just observing the fact that it is.
Sunday, May 10, 2009
Honor Your Mother
Dear Victorious,
I know the Bible says that we are to honor our father and mother. But my mother is a mean, selfish witch. I can't stand to be with her because she is so critical and negative all the time. She berates me and belittles me to no end. There is nothing I can do that pleases her. So Mother's Day seems like a time when I am just screwed. Am I just doomed to this torture with her?
Melanie E. - Huntsville, TX
Dear Melanie,
No, you are not doomed to this torture. I assume you are an adult and not living with your mother. In such a case, you are able to draw firm boundaries with her and not put up with her abusive behavior. You do not have to spend time with your father and mother in order to honor them. (I think I have talked to someone else about something similar before.) So how do you honor your mother on Mother's Day?
The thing to remember is that you're trying to keep a Biblical command - but Mother's Day is not a religious holiday. It's not Biblical. It's society's notion of how we honor Mother's Day. I say you'd do better to forget about Mother's Day and focus on how you can honor your mother every day. How do you do that?
First, you live good values. Live a life that is honorable and praise worthy. Live the values you know your mother would cherish (even if she fails at them herself).
Second, you maintain contact with your mother. That's different than spending time with her. Send her cards and letters, flowers, pictures of the grand kids, etc. And do it often.
Third, you see that her basic needs are provided for. Make sure she has decent housing, health care, food and clothes, etc. If she needs help, step in and make sure she gets it. (This is especially true in the advanced elderly - when they may not be able to fend for themselves mentally or emotionally.)
Fourth, you don't gossip about your mother or spend time putting her down around others. Don't talk badly about her to anyone. If someone presses you about why you aren't closer to her, simply tell them you love her dearly.
Finally, pray for your mother. Ask God to soften her heart. Ask God to show you how you can love her. Ask Him to show you ways that you might relate to her more effectively. Always hold out hope that with Jesus in the picture, a relationship with your mother is still possible.
Now, today is Mother's Day. If you haven't already, get some flowers and candy, a nice card and drop by your mother's with them. You don't have to stay long. Just suck it up and stop in to drop this stuff of and tell her you love her. Then be on your way. After today, start embracing your new plan for dear old Mom.
I know the Bible says that we are to honor our father and mother. But my mother is a mean, selfish witch. I can't stand to be with her because she is so critical and negative all the time. She berates me and belittles me to no end. There is nothing I can do that pleases her. So Mother's Day seems like a time when I am just screwed. Am I just doomed to this torture with her?
Melanie E. - Huntsville, TX
Dear Melanie,
No, you are not doomed to this torture. I assume you are an adult and not living with your mother. In such a case, you are able to draw firm boundaries with her and not put up with her abusive behavior. You do not have to spend time with your father and mother in order to honor them. (I think I have talked to someone else about something similar before.) So how do you honor your mother on Mother's Day?
The thing to remember is that you're trying to keep a Biblical command - but Mother's Day is not a religious holiday. It's not Biblical. It's society's notion of how we honor Mother's Day. I say you'd do better to forget about Mother's Day and focus on how you can honor your mother every day. How do you do that?
First, you live good values. Live a life that is honorable and praise worthy. Live the values you know your mother would cherish (even if she fails at them herself).
Second, you maintain contact with your mother. That's different than spending time with her. Send her cards and letters, flowers, pictures of the grand kids, etc. And do it often.
Third, you see that her basic needs are provided for. Make sure she has decent housing, health care, food and clothes, etc. If she needs help, step in and make sure she gets it. (This is especially true in the advanced elderly - when they may not be able to fend for themselves mentally or emotionally.)
Fourth, you don't gossip about your mother or spend time putting her down around others. Don't talk badly about her to anyone. If someone presses you about why you aren't closer to her, simply tell them you love her dearly.
Finally, pray for your mother. Ask God to soften her heart. Ask God to show you how you can love her. Ask Him to show you ways that you might relate to her more effectively. Always hold out hope that with Jesus in the picture, a relationship with your mother is still possible.
Now, today is Mother's Day. If you haven't already, get some flowers and candy, a nice card and drop by your mother's with them. You don't have to stay long. Just suck it up and stop in to drop this stuff of and tell her you love her. Then be on your way. After today, start embracing your new plan for dear old Mom.
Saturday, May 9, 2009
What Confounds You?
Dear Victorious,
You seem to have a lot of answers to questions. There must be some things in life that confound you. What are they?
Allen R. - Memphis
Dear Allen,
Yes, I have a lot of answers to questions. But you're right in that there are many questions I would still like to have answered myself. In fact, the vast sea of questions seems to continue to unfold before me, week by week! What are some things that confound me? Here's just a small sampling off the top of my head:
1. Why did God make skunks? If everything is "purpose driven," what is the purpose of skunks in the grand scheme of things?
2. Why didn't President Barack Obama make an appearance at any public prayer event on National Prayer Day this week?
3. Is there any way the United States could ever significantly reduce dependence on automobiles?
4. What would the world be like if the British Empire had not been disassembled? Most of the countries that were set free have not fared so well on their own!
5. How could White House aid Louis Caldera have thought it would be okay to spend more than $328,000 to get a new publicity photo of the Air Force One? (He's the guy who quit this week after all of Manhattan got upset that he buzzed the city with this big plane and two Air Force fighter jets.) The scandal of flying a jumbo jet low over Manhattan and scaring the crap out of the people who live there aside - that's a stupid way to be spending taxpayer dollars.
6. What would my life have been like if my father hadn't died when I was a toddler?
7. What would my life have been like if I hadn't been so rebellious, self-centered and immature in my youth?
8. Why can't weather forecasters get their predictions any more accurate than they do? Their accuracy seems incredibly low. Is weather really that unpredictable? If it is, why do we keep trying?
9. If the U.S. has such a strong immigrant heritage, why are immigrants such a big problem for us now? Wouldn't letting them all in who want in and assimilating them be easier than fighting the illegals?
10. Who invented carpet?
11. Why don't Americans think it's okay to eat horse (like some Europeans do) or dog and cat (like some Asians do)? Is there anything we eat that they think is gross?
12. Where do paper clips go in an office? They never seem to wear out, but we have to keep buying them!
13. When will the U.S. national debt ever get paid off? Does it matter?
14. Is global warming really as serious as we think it is?
15. What will Arab countries be like when they run out of oil?
Okay, there you have it. These are just a sampling of the unanswered questions in my mind on any given day!
You seem to have a lot of answers to questions. There must be some things in life that confound you. What are they?
Allen R. - Memphis
Dear Allen,
Yes, I have a lot of answers to questions. But you're right in that there are many questions I would still like to have answered myself. In fact, the vast sea of questions seems to continue to unfold before me, week by week! What are some things that confound me? Here's just a small sampling off the top of my head:
1. Why did God make skunks? If everything is "purpose driven," what is the purpose of skunks in the grand scheme of things?
2. Why didn't President Barack Obama make an appearance at any public prayer event on National Prayer Day this week?
3. Is there any way the United States could ever significantly reduce dependence on automobiles?
4. What would the world be like if the British Empire had not been disassembled? Most of the countries that were set free have not fared so well on their own!
5. How could White House aid Louis Caldera have thought it would be okay to spend more than $328,000 to get a new publicity photo of the Air Force One? (He's the guy who quit this week after all of Manhattan got upset that he buzzed the city with this big plane and two Air Force fighter jets.) The scandal of flying a jumbo jet low over Manhattan and scaring the crap out of the people who live there aside - that's a stupid way to be spending taxpayer dollars.
6. What would my life have been like if my father hadn't died when I was a toddler?
7. What would my life have been like if I hadn't been so rebellious, self-centered and immature in my youth?
8. Why can't weather forecasters get their predictions any more accurate than they do? Their accuracy seems incredibly low. Is weather really that unpredictable? If it is, why do we keep trying?
9. If the U.S. has such a strong immigrant heritage, why are immigrants such a big problem for us now? Wouldn't letting them all in who want in and assimilating them be easier than fighting the illegals?
10. Who invented carpet?
11. Why don't Americans think it's okay to eat horse (like some Europeans do) or dog and cat (like some Asians do)? Is there anything we eat that they think is gross?
12. Where do paper clips go in an office? They never seem to wear out, but we have to keep buying them!
13. When will the U.S. national debt ever get paid off? Does it matter?
14. Is global warming really as serious as we think it is?
15. What will Arab countries be like when they run out of oil?
Okay, there you have it. These are just a sampling of the unanswered questions in my mind on any given day!
Friday, May 8, 2009
Oh My God!
Dear Victorious,
We frequently hear people saying, "Oh my God!" Isn't this blasphemy? (After all, it is taking the name of the Lord in vain.)
Marcy E. - Hammondsville, IN
Dear Marcy,
Yes, I've heard it too. I'm not so much troubled by the actual words as I am the attitude toward God that they seem to reveal. I hear it on TV a lot, especially on reality shows, game shows and commercials. Anything that's surprising, especially pleasantly so, seems to warrant such an exclamation. I'm sure that the comment itself is innocent enough. But I notice that the maturest Christians I know don't use that expression. You have to wonder why!
Blasphemy is defined as the act of showing contempt for God, showing irreverence toward God, claiming the attributes of God or denying the deity of God. So when someone says, with regular casualness, "Oh my God!" I suspect they are - in most cases - simply guilty of irreverence toward God. But my guess is that most of them are ignorant about that fact. The only question I'd have is whether it would matter to them if they knew.
We frequently hear people saying, "Oh my God!" Isn't this blasphemy? (After all, it is taking the name of the Lord in vain.)
Marcy E. - Hammondsville, IN
Dear Marcy,
Yes, I've heard it too. I'm not so much troubled by the actual words as I am the attitude toward God that they seem to reveal. I hear it on TV a lot, especially on reality shows, game shows and commercials. Anything that's surprising, especially pleasantly so, seems to warrant such an exclamation. I'm sure that the comment itself is innocent enough. But I notice that the maturest Christians I know don't use that expression. You have to wonder why!
Blasphemy is defined as the act of showing contempt for God, showing irreverence toward God, claiming the attributes of God or denying the deity of God. So when someone says, with regular casualness, "Oh my God!" I suspect they are - in most cases - simply guilty of irreverence toward God. But my guess is that most of them are ignorant about that fact. The only question I'd have is whether it would matter to them if they knew.
Thursday, May 7, 2009
AntiSemite
Dear Victorious
I read your blog about Jews and how you think they are headed straight to hell. I don't understand how you can call yourself a Christian and hate Jews like you do. Aren't Christians supposed to be loving and accepting? Doesn't that make you one colossal hypocrite?
Offended Jew
Dear Offended,
I'm sorry if you take offense at what I said. Too bad you didn't stop to consider its merits before you slapped an antisemitic label on me. No, I don't hate Jews. In fact, I have some very dear friends who are Jewish. Some of them believe that Jesus is who He said He is - and some of them don't. I love them just the same. But I believe some of them are wrong.
Jesus said the only way to heaven is through Him. Traditionally Jews have rejected Jesus' claim to be the Messiah. So if the only way to heaven is through Jesus - and you reject Him - then you are not headed to heaven. I only know of one other place you can then go - and it is hell. It's not judgmental on my part. I'm just stating the obvious here. Christians believe that Jesus is who He said He is. Moreover, we believe that anyone who doesn't is headed straight for hell. It makes no difference whether you're a Jew, an atheist, a Muslim, a Hindu or whatever else you want to be. We believe Jesus is the only way to heaven - to eternity with the one true God.
And by the way, antiSemite's believe that Jew's are an inferior race. I've never even suggested such a preposterous notion. After all, Jesus was a Jew!
I read your blog about Jews and how you think they are headed straight to hell. I don't understand how you can call yourself a Christian and hate Jews like you do. Aren't Christians supposed to be loving and accepting? Doesn't that make you one colossal hypocrite?
Offended Jew
Dear Offended,
I'm sorry if you take offense at what I said. Too bad you didn't stop to consider its merits before you slapped an antisemitic label on me. No, I don't hate Jews. In fact, I have some very dear friends who are Jewish. Some of them believe that Jesus is who He said He is - and some of them don't. I love them just the same. But I believe some of them are wrong.
Jesus said the only way to heaven is through Him. Traditionally Jews have rejected Jesus' claim to be the Messiah. So if the only way to heaven is through Jesus - and you reject Him - then you are not headed to heaven. I only know of one other place you can then go - and it is hell. It's not judgmental on my part. I'm just stating the obvious here. Christians believe that Jesus is who He said He is. Moreover, we believe that anyone who doesn't is headed straight for hell. It makes no difference whether you're a Jew, an atheist, a Muslim, a Hindu or whatever else you want to be. We believe Jesus is the only way to heaven - to eternity with the one true God.
And by the way, antiSemite's believe that Jew's are an inferior race. I've never even suggested such a preposterous notion. After all, Jesus was a Jew!
Wednesday, May 6, 2009
Viagra
Dear Victorious,
Is it okay for Christians to take Viagra? What if the doctor recommends it?
Just Wondering
Dear Wondering,
I find nothing unbiblical about Viagra. God has blessed us with many wonderful medications to address the maladies of our humanity. Put Viagra in the same context as anti-depression, high blood pressure, heart, diabetes or any other types of medication. These medications are intended to treat health problems that threaten our basic health and/or our quality of life. They only become sinful when they are abused or taken for inappropriate reasons. (An example might be an athlete who takes steroids to enhance physical endurance.) If you have health issues that can be successfully addressed with Viagra (or one of its competitors), and you can safely take it, and you can obtain it legally - then there is nothing about it that would be wrong for a Christ-follower.
Is it okay for Christians to take Viagra? What if the doctor recommends it?
Just Wondering
Dear Wondering,
I find nothing unbiblical about Viagra. God has blessed us with many wonderful medications to address the maladies of our humanity. Put Viagra in the same context as anti-depression, high blood pressure, heart, diabetes or any other types of medication. These medications are intended to treat health problems that threaten our basic health and/or our quality of life. They only become sinful when they are abused or taken for inappropriate reasons. (An example might be an athlete who takes steroids to enhance physical endurance.) If you have health issues that can be successfully addressed with Viagra (or one of its competitors), and you can safely take it, and you can obtain it legally - then there is nothing about it that would be wrong for a Christ-follower.
Tuesday, May 5, 2009
Correct Atheism?
Dear Victorious,
I read your discussion recently about atheists. Many of these are not ignorant people. Some atheists are highly educated, very intelligent people. They don't come to an atheistic conclusion lightly. In fact, I think most of them come to the atheistic conclusion (that there is no god) after much study and soul searching. Don't you suppose there is the chance that you are wrong and they could be right?
Mitchell D. - Rockford, IL
Dear Mitchell,
No. The evidence is overwhelming. Those who can sincerely conclude that there is no god are sincerely wrong.
I read your discussion recently about atheists. Many of these are not ignorant people. Some atheists are highly educated, very intelligent people. They don't come to an atheistic conclusion lightly. In fact, I think most of them come to the atheistic conclusion (that there is no god) after much study and soul searching. Don't you suppose there is the chance that you are wrong and they could be right?
Mitchell D. - Rockford, IL
Dear Mitchell,
No. The evidence is overwhelming. Those who can sincerely conclude that there is no god are sincerely wrong.
Monday, May 4, 2009
Bush's Decisions
Recently, a reader of my blog (and a dear friend) questioned me about the decisions I thought George Bush had made as president which didn't line up with the character and nature of God. (He didn't write in to Dear Victorious, because he is a personal friend and knows my personal e-mail.) At any rate, I thought I'd publish the answer here - for posterity's sake.
Specifically what decisions did George Bush make that you don't believe line up with the character and nature of God?
Dear _____,
My first thought was torture, but another came to my mind right after that.
The first thing George Bush did that I thought was a clear violation of his own principles was to declare war on Iraq in violation of the United Nations. We are members of the U.N. and agreed to abide its resolutions on foreign matters. The U.N. agreed to go into Afghanistan. It did not believe we had sufficient evidence to go into Iraq. President Bush disagreed and declared war on Iraq anyway - in clear violation of our U.N. agreements.
I don't believe God told George Bush to do this. And it turned out George was wrong. There were no weapons of mass destruction. And the U.S. has been paying for that mistake for years. We will be paying for that mistake for years. It has been one of the most expensive wars the U.S. has ever fought.
The second thing George Bush did that I thought was a clear violation of his own principles was to consent to - as in not stop wrong imprisonment of suspected war criminals. We captured and held people in prison without charging them of any crime. Many of them have been held for years - without being charged. This is a clear violation of our own U.S. Constitution. It's also immoral.
Finally, George Bush consented to - or at least failed to prohibit - gross torture of suspected war criminals as an interrogation technique. Some of the torture was heinous. There is nothing Biblical about it. In no way could it be constituted as "loving our enemies."
I've not said that George Bush was an bad man or an evil man. But as someone who professed to be a born-again Christian, he has fallen quite short of making decisions that line up with the character and nature of the Christ he professes to be submitted and surrendered to.
Specifically what decisions did George Bush make that you don't believe line up with the character and nature of God?
Dear _____,
My first thought was torture, but another came to my mind right after that.
The first thing George Bush did that I thought was a clear violation of his own principles was to declare war on Iraq in violation of the United Nations. We are members of the U.N. and agreed to abide its resolutions on foreign matters. The U.N. agreed to go into Afghanistan. It did not believe we had sufficient evidence to go into Iraq. President Bush disagreed and declared war on Iraq anyway - in clear violation of our U.N. agreements.
I don't believe God told George Bush to do this. And it turned out George was wrong. There were no weapons of mass destruction. And the U.S. has been paying for that mistake for years. We will be paying for that mistake for years. It has been one of the most expensive wars the U.S. has ever fought.
The second thing George Bush did that I thought was a clear violation of his own principles was to consent to - as in not stop wrong imprisonment of suspected war criminals. We captured and held people in prison without charging them of any crime. Many of them have been held for years - without being charged. This is a clear violation of our own U.S. Constitution. It's also immoral.
Finally, George Bush consented to - or at least failed to prohibit - gross torture of suspected war criminals as an interrogation technique. Some of the torture was heinous. There is nothing Biblical about it. In no way could it be constituted as "loving our enemies."
I've not said that George Bush was an bad man or an evil man. But as someone who professed to be a born-again Christian, he has fallen quite short of making decisions that line up with the character and nature of the Christ he professes to be submitted and surrendered to.
Sunday, May 3, 2009
Seeker Friendly
Dear Victorious,
What do you think of seeker-oriented churches, with their contemporary music and other attributes?
H.B. Lutz - Albuquerque
Hear Mr. (or Ms.) Lutz,
As far as I know the concept of seeker-sensitive churches was made popular by Willow Creek Church outside of Chicago. It's a highly successful church by any of man's measures - large attendance, large budget, great influence in the world. I suppose the question is whether or not these are God's measures of success.
Not long ago, Willow Creek commissioned a study that concluded it's people weren't maturing or growing in Christ. Largely they were milk-fed babies in real danger of hell. This was despite the church's overwhelming success. And you see, that is the problem.
Churches that adopt and pursue a "seeker-sensitive" model do so to entice people into church who would otherwise be turned off by church. Cappuccino bars, flat-screen TV, contemporary bands, casual dress, children's theaters, gymnasiums and other features are common to these churches. While it is well and good to make church attractive to people - the church has a great responsibility once they get there.
Jesus told us to "go and make disciples." Many of the people in seeker-sensitive churches are not growing. They are being coddled, milk-fed and lied to about who God is and who they are in Christ. They ignorantly come to church whenever they feel like it, call it their church, don't tithe, aren't committed and pretty much live lives that look like those in the fallen world around them. Jesus said, "Not everyone who cries, 'Lord, Lord' will see the kingdom of heaven." These are the people He was referring to.
I believe the concept of seeker sensitive churches was a good idea. But for the most part, these churches have failed to successfully disciple and grow the people they attract. They have little or no money in their budget for true discipleship - but spend plenty of money on music, drama, facilities, advertising, etc. Jesus never said, "go and serve cappuccino"
What do you think of seeker-oriented churches, with their contemporary music and other attributes?
H.B. Lutz - Albuquerque
Hear Mr. (or Ms.) Lutz,
As far as I know the concept of seeker-sensitive churches was made popular by Willow Creek Church outside of Chicago. It's a highly successful church by any of man's measures - large attendance, large budget, great influence in the world. I suppose the question is whether or not these are God's measures of success.
Not long ago, Willow Creek commissioned a study that concluded it's people weren't maturing or growing in Christ. Largely they were milk-fed babies in real danger of hell. This was despite the church's overwhelming success. And you see, that is the problem.
Churches that adopt and pursue a "seeker-sensitive" model do so to entice people into church who would otherwise be turned off by church. Cappuccino bars, flat-screen TV, contemporary bands, casual dress, children's theaters, gymnasiums and other features are common to these churches. While it is well and good to make church attractive to people - the church has a great responsibility once they get there.
Jesus told us to "go and make disciples." Many of the people in seeker-sensitive churches are not growing. They are being coddled, milk-fed and lied to about who God is and who they are in Christ. They ignorantly come to church whenever they feel like it, call it their church, don't tithe, aren't committed and pretty much live lives that look like those in the fallen world around them. Jesus said, "Not everyone who cries, 'Lord, Lord' will see the kingdom of heaven." These are the people He was referring to.
I believe the concept of seeker sensitive churches was a good idea. But for the most part, these churches have failed to successfully disciple and grow the people they attract. They have little or no money in their budget for true discipleship - but spend plenty of money on music, drama, facilities, advertising, etc. Jesus never said, "go and serve cappuccino"
Saturday, May 2, 2009
Atheism
Dear Victorious,
I heard someone on Christian talk radio this week say that atheists are selfish. He explained that they just rationalize God out of existence so that they can live however they want to. Do you think this could be true?
Helen C. - Dallas, TX
Dear Helen,
I have heard that theory as well. (Perhaps we listen to the same Christian talk radio shows!) However, I doubt very much that it's true. What's true is that we don't really know the heart of the atheist. We don't know the thought processes, the life experiences or whatever else went into their mind that enabled them to conclude that there is no God (not even false gods).
I think saying that they are selfish and that they just rationalize God away so they can live however they want is probably giving their thinking process just too much credit. I've known some atheists. They seemed to just be ignorant of the truth. They were principled people and weren't living hedonistic lifestyles.
Some atheists have searched for truth - but don't think they've found it. Some found it - but the way they experienced Christianity in the world made it hard to believe. Nothing that they saw or experienced lined up with what they were being told was true.
Atheists deserve our love. They deserve our grace. They deserve our patience. Let's not sell them short by demonizing them with nasty, sarcastic labels.
I heard someone on Christian talk radio this week say that atheists are selfish. He explained that they just rationalize God out of existence so that they can live however they want to. Do you think this could be true?
Helen C. - Dallas, TX
Dear Helen,
I have heard that theory as well. (Perhaps we listen to the same Christian talk radio shows!) However, I doubt very much that it's true. What's true is that we don't really know the heart of the atheist. We don't know the thought processes, the life experiences or whatever else went into their mind that enabled them to conclude that there is no God (not even false gods).
I think saying that they are selfish and that they just rationalize God away so they can live however they want is probably giving their thinking process just too much credit. I've known some atheists. They seemed to just be ignorant of the truth. They were principled people and weren't living hedonistic lifestyles.
Some atheists have searched for truth - but don't think they've found it. Some found it - but the way they experienced Christianity in the world made it hard to believe. Nothing that they saw or experienced lined up with what they were being told was true.
Atheists deserve our love. They deserve our grace. They deserve our patience. Let's not sell them short by demonizing them with nasty, sarcastic labels.
Friday, May 1, 2009
First 100 Days
Dear Victorious,
What do you make of Obama's first 100 days? What do you like? What do you dislike?
Balanced Critic
Dear Balanced,
I'm no expert on the U.S. presidency, so my views - like most Americans - are going to look like those of an "arm chair quarterback," to coin a phrase. So far, I have to admit I think more favorably of both Barack and Michelle Obama than I expected to. They've been surprising in some very good ways.
I like most of what Obama has done with foreign affairs. His partnership with Hillary Clinton intrigues me. She seems to be very effective. They seem to work well together. In fact, his partnership with Hillary looks stronger than his partnership with Joe Biden. There's quite a bit more that I like. The "Obama plan" for mortgages may seem frustrating in that it looks to enable the bad behavior of mortgage borrowers. On the other hand, it goes quite far in putting some sense, logic and order to the process of mortgage modifications. If you've read it (and I have), there is a strong component for accountability on the part of average Americans screaming for a mortgage bailout. I like that.
I'm not so sure about the auto industry or the banks. I think I would have been quicker to nationalize GM and Chrysler - putting them both into bankruptcy earlier in the game. It will take bankruptcy to kill off the toxic choke hold that the unions have over the auto industry. I'm also a little disappointed in the lack of humility demonstrated in Obama. Frankly his wife seems to play the humble card better than he does. Obama takes a little more credit than I think he should. It seems he uses "I' more often than "we."
Are you getting my drift here? These are not big things.
I suppose the biggest frustration I have with Obama is his inability to address the national debt and other fiscal issues that threaten our nation's livelihood. Frankly, I consider those to be bigger threats than Iran, North Korea, radical Muslims or the swine flu!
Overall, I think we have a decent president. Perhaps the best thing is that we have a nation and a world that are responding to him in much more positive ways than we were responding to the president we had just a few months ago.
What do you make of Obama's first 100 days? What do you like? What do you dislike?
Balanced Critic
Dear Balanced,
I'm no expert on the U.S. presidency, so my views - like most Americans - are going to look like those of an "arm chair quarterback," to coin a phrase. So far, I have to admit I think more favorably of both Barack and Michelle Obama than I expected to. They've been surprising in some very good ways.
I like most of what Obama has done with foreign affairs. His partnership with Hillary Clinton intrigues me. She seems to be very effective. They seem to work well together. In fact, his partnership with Hillary looks stronger than his partnership with Joe Biden. There's quite a bit more that I like. The "Obama plan" for mortgages may seem frustrating in that it looks to enable the bad behavior of mortgage borrowers. On the other hand, it goes quite far in putting some sense, logic and order to the process of mortgage modifications. If you've read it (and I have), there is a strong component for accountability on the part of average Americans screaming for a mortgage bailout. I like that.
I'm not so sure about the auto industry or the banks. I think I would have been quicker to nationalize GM and Chrysler - putting them both into bankruptcy earlier in the game. It will take bankruptcy to kill off the toxic choke hold that the unions have over the auto industry. I'm also a little disappointed in the lack of humility demonstrated in Obama. Frankly his wife seems to play the humble card better than he does. Obama takes a little more credit than I think he should. It seems he uses "I' more often than "we."
Are you getting my drift here? These are not big things.
I suppose the biggest frustration I have with Obama is his inability to address the national debt and other fiscal issues that threaten our nation's livelihood. Frankly, I consider those to be bigger threats than Iran, North Korea, radical Muslims or the swine flu!
Overall, I think we have a decent president. Perhaps the best thing is that we have a nation and a world that are responding to him in much more positive ways than we were responding to the president we had just a few months ago.
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