Jon & Kate

Dear Victorious,

What do you make of the recent divorce announcement for Jon & Kate (the TV couple with the eight kids)?

Angela Z. - King of Prussia, PA

Dear Angela,

Well, Jon and Kate haven't asked me for marital advice. But based on what I've read and what I've seen of their interaction on their reality show (which I have watched a couple of times) - I do have an opinion. (You knew I would!)

I tuned in this week to see the "divorce episode," where they constructed the kids' play houses. What I saw was really sad. Kate continued to throw Jon under the bus throughout the show. I believe this marriage could be salvaged. But in order to do so, Kate would have to set aside her resentments against Jon for what he is - and what he isn't. She would have to stop blaming him for everything. On the other hand, I believe Jon would have to start leading his family.

I don't believe in gossip. But I do believe in marriage. And I do believe that marriages can be worked out. Problems can be walked out. But it takes two people to each lay down their respective swords. Each has to decide whether it's more important to be right - or to be reconciled. At this point, at least one person in that marriage seems to have chosen the former.