Spanking Children

Dear Victorious,

I know the Bible says to "spare the rod and spoil the child." But this really seems outdated. Is it really necessary for Christian parents to spank their children?

Doreen G. - Tupelo, MS

Dear Doreen,

It may not be necessary for Christian parents to spank their children. It may be possible for them to lead their children to better conclusions and to correct their thinking and behavior without corporal punishment. However, when children are too young to reason with, a controlled (i.e., not done in anger) spanking may be the most practical way to get the child's attention to the subject and enforce the point (i.e., draw a boundary that is not to be crossed).

The rod mentioned in the Bible (Proverbs 22:15) is not necessarily a tool a tool for punishment or inflicting pain. Rather it was a tool for correction and discipline. It is structured living that keeps children from giving in to foolishness. It is strict parenting, good discipleship and wise counsel between parents and children.